There is a reason and season for everything. Keeping our eyes and ears open will allow us to see, even if we don’t feel ready. When we least expect it God will reveal something that will make us pause and study our path. We are ready.
There are normally signs along the way. It’s easy to miss the small details, but if we take notice, we can watch them accumulate. Choosing to ignore the signs prolongs the inevitable. There is less pain in letting go of something, or someone that is already long gone. Listen to your heart, but take your brain with you.
The way we were raised has a lot to do with our beliefs, especially about ourselves. I have friends that are in miserable marriages because they were raised to fight for the marriage. My parents stayed married until all the kids were out of the house and then they got a divorce. I chose to break that cycle and let go of what was gone.
Life is an ever changing cycle so what I learned as a child isn’t always what’s best for me today. I recall early in my letting go process going through a list of things my mother said and digging for truth. Would I get sick if I went outside with my hair wet? Was sex my duty as a wife? I was able to debunk most of that long list.
I don’t have to believe everything I was taught growing up. Part of the Letting Go process is, laying everything out on a table, picking and choosing what I wanted to keep to move forward in life. If it was true, good and adds value I kept it. The things that were not true and didn’t add to my life were thrown away. Out with the old way and in with the new. Be true to you and build yourself a new life that is beautiful.