I just saw a post on my Facebook feed and it made me smile. What to do after your kids go to sleep was the question. The one thing I didn’t do that I will do now is love my man. We women give everything to our kids and wonder why the husband doesn’t pay attention to us. You have to give attention to receive. Love that man or somebody else will.

I scrolled a long ways to find this picture. Tasteful nudity. Just beautiful! This is what every woman wants to look like to her man. You know what? In his eyes, you do.

It’s the eye of the beholder ladies. You have worked all day or spent the day at one too many water parks with the kids. You are not feeling very sexy. To him, you are beautiful.

I poured all my time and energy into becoming the perfect Mom, or what the world saw as perfect. Today, I am divorced. We took care of others before ourselves. The love died and then we did the same as our parents. We tried to stay together for the kid’s sake. The kids knew we were miserable and started thinking it was their fault. How crazy is that?

Take care of your kids, but take time for one another. When the kids are asleep or at Grammy”s that should be your time together. Paint that room that needs it or lay at opposite ends of the couch and rub one another’s feet. Anything as long as it’s together.

Do you know where I found this picture? It is on my man’s timeline. He posted it one night as we were chatting, so it would pop up in front of me. I still remember the way it made me feel when I saw it. We started dating and he described us as, I am yours and you are mine. He knew I liked pretty and that is way past pretty to me.

Ladies, go find your man and give him love. They don’t ask for much. Just some love and attention. Can you imagine what your life would be like if you gave him the same attention as your kids? You wouldn’t be looking for a hobby.

Barbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Let It Go Coach and helping others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is working on her first book. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com