One Relationship Rule

I started my morning reading articles about long distance relationships. The woman writer spelled out 20 things that were needed and the male writer listed 5. This is an excellent example of how men and women see things differently.

I am no relationship expert, nor do I want to be. My marriage started as a long distance relationship, (LDR). After my divorce, another relationship came into play and lasted a year and a half. In both cases, I stayed longer than I should have. The love was gone long before the leaving, but there were many a lesson learned. There are no regrets.

Burning my list of requirements for a man was next. I think we all have a mental list of what that special person will look like and the characteristics they will have. Drop the list and allow people to walk into your life. Be their friend because everybody needs friends, and you will know what’s next. Try and stay open minded and not quick to judge.

blogBe a reflection of what you’d like to receive. I have a lot of love to give and have become content with the amount given to me. Love is an emotion, but it is shown with an action. You can do little things throughout the day to show that person your love. They will receive it or run, so find out early.

This picture says it all. There should not be a lot of rules. ‘I love rules’, said nobody ever! To allow someone into your world and just be yourself. This Blog could run in so many directions but there is one more point I want to make. I have not read any articles recently that mention God in the LDR.

Yes, I could go over to and find articles that mention God, but I am not her. I’m a single Mom that loves God and am anything but perfect. He provides my every need, so it would make sense that a man to love would be on His list. Distance is not the issue.

The issue is, when I think I know what’s best for me, but God has better in mind. That is another reason why I burned the list because everything God has done in my life is so much more than I could have put on any dream board. I’ve mentioned in Blogs before but I’ll say it again. When I asked God when was He going to give me a man I could love he said, “When are you going to let me.” To let someone in is the only rule you need. God will do the rest.


blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. You may connect with her via email.

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