Single Mom Syndrome

Money is a huge factor for a single Mom. We often stay in an unhealthy relationship for financial security. That is highly overrated. When you become unhappy enough, you will find a way out. Be ready to walk through some fire though.

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You let go of what you have, to get what you want.

My daughter and I had each other, and that was enough.

Her father is still a very materialistic person, but I let that shit go! We simplified when we left, and took only our favorite things. We had so much stuff to choose from, you couldn’t tell anyone had moved out. We still have those foundational pieces, but our tastes are changing.

Since moving into our new home, people said, “You need to download the Nextdoor app.” I took a look at it, but didn’t like how it showed your address. You can take your house number off, and it reveals only your street. Being a single Mom, try to protect our exact location. The app is a fun way to connect with neighbors, and buy/sell things.

We haven’t bought a piece of furniture in years, but I spent the weekend rearranging our living room. I read articles on ‘How to make the most of small spaces.” Oh yes lovely. The houses we’ve shared since, are less than 1,000 square feet.

A whole new level of togetherness.

When you move into a new home, you sit things where you think they belong. As you settle in, you make it a home. We have been here since January, so it’s time to fine tune it.

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Our new addition, and I’ve been staring at it for days.

I learned the hard way, don’t buy things to add to your life because you like it. It’s no longer just you, it’s all about us.

This piece already had some things going for it.

  1. It is my daughters favorite brand. (Threshold)
  2. It’s a good combination of both of us. She leans toward modern, and sleek. I enjoy wood for warmth.
  3. The price was $40, and it looks brand new.
  4. Finding it on Nextdoor, the local was nearby.

We went to go look at it together. I can tell by her face, if she likes something, or not. She liked it and said, “If it makes you happy, then get it!” It fit perfectly, and we both like it.

We are trying to decide what to sit on top. I’m thinking of framing some photographs she has on her phone.The drawers will remain empty for a while, but there is one for each of us. What would you display, and use it for?

15 thoughts on “Single Mom Syndrome

  1. New World Ascending says:

    All of us have left something behind that the world deems better for something we deem better.

    I grew up in two homes. My Mom’s with her small apartment, and my Dad’s with his acreage. Although the country living aspect of home with my Dad had its pull, he couldn’t hold a candle to the atmosphere my Mom provided.

    The important things in life will come down to the comfort and love of the home provided.

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      • New World Ascending says:

        Home isn’t what is in a building. Home is what is in a heart

        Of course, this is always reflected in everything around you, but that is totally understood. 😉

        Love is its own language, whether it is spoken through things or lack of things it doesn’t matter. What matters is that is it there.

        I’m glad you’ve been able to make a home for your daughter. xx

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    • Letitgocoach says:

      Well, a sofa is on our list, so it’s already envisioned! Hey…You know what makes my heart happy. Candles are on order, and I got flowers yesterday! Plants…I’m still deciding. Thank you Mama! xx

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  2. librac0805 says:

    My daughter and I did the same. We left a 3 bedroom house and went to a small 2 bedroom apartment with 3 cats. An adjustment to be sure. But then you learn to weed out what you don’t need or want. I love this post.

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