Your Life Better

I saw a post this morning that resonated with me. It said, “Make a list of things that make you happy. Make a list of things you do everyday. Compare the lists. Adjust accordingly.” How would your two lists compare?

blog1Then I saw this post and of course, the simplistic beauty of it caught my eye. It is blown up full size so you can read it with ease. Just drink it in. This post is my Blog for today. It says everything I wish for you. It took me a long time to learn it, but today, it’s where I am. Make your two lists and adjust accordingly. Choose your life. Make it pretty. ❤

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

Good To Me Or Good For Me? Let’s Do Both

Something happens when I step into this virtual world of Blogging. As soon as I enter, it feels like home. Thank you for being here, reading and sharing my words. The reason I come in is to share, but the reason I stay is for you.

You can always come here to find encouragement. That is my purpose in life is to love people and help them along their journey. I don’t claim to have all the answers, just sharing what is on my heart and what God is showing me today. We can walk and learn this life together, which is so much better than alone. This life is our gift and it’s meant to be opened and enjoyed daily. How we use it directs our path, but I thank God today, I only stumble and don’t fall.

pickyouThis is one of the first memes I made. The first few I made have words on them out of a journal I carry around all the time. When God tells me something, I write it down. It may be something I’ve heard before, or something original. Any worthwhile thought gets written in that book.

God prompted me months ago to start making memes. I looked at free software online and was discouraged rather quickly. I’m not super technical, but I can usually figure things out. Some of these software’s are not meant to be figured out. They are merely there to frustrate.

PicMonkey is one that is zero fun. It has all the whistles and bells, but it even frustrates my teenage daughter, who has artistic ability. Red flag number one and the name says it all. Coming across the one I was able to use was a God send. It’s called Picfont and again, the name speaks.

linedry1So when is something ‘good for you’? When it feeds your soul is my indication. There are going to be lessons in life, but should life be one continuous lesson? I think not. If that were the case, I would feel beat up, worn down and defeated, which is the complete opposite of who I am. I wouldn’t be able to share my gift and lift people up if I were down.

If something is good for you, it can be good to you in a loving manner. My mother was good to me and what she taught me was good for me, but eating all those veggies when I was little did not feel like love to me.

IamThis last meme was the first one I made. If you know me at all, you should know, this is my mantra for my life. It’s what I had to tell myself everyday for a year until I could look comfortably in the mirror and own it. Feel free to click, print and tape it to your mirror. That is what I had to do and it was hard work, but it laid the foundation of who I am today.

Picfont is good to me and is set up to lovingly assist. I will grow and get better at making memes and dive in to more challenging software. It will have to be good to me to be good for me, or I will not stick with it. Challenge is good and helps us grow, but it needs to do so with love.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

Be Still And Know

It’s an honor and a privilege to be writing for the Sisters of Serenity and Sobriety each Friday. What a fabulous end to my work week! As soon as this happened last night, I looked at my daughter and said, “There’s my Blog for Katie!”

Losing my home and having it go through foreclosure years ago was heart wrenching. Ever since then I have rented a home to live in. Sometimes for a only a year, or maybe two years max. I enjoy moving and living wherever God leads.

growyou1The home my daughter and I live in today is an old farmhouse, on 5 acres, that has been restored to its natural beauty. We have been here four months and the rent is due the first week of the month. I received a text last night from my landlord, asking for it pronto. I made myself sit still.

If this would have happened before sobriety, it would have prompted me to drink. The majority of my income goes into PayPal, so it takes a few days for it to move into my checking. There was not enough money in my checking to cover rent this quickly. Time to breathe and respond.

I was so grateful for that moment. To be able to be caught off guard and not react in a drunken spew. Stopping and asking God for guidance and to be my words is all it took. We talked it through via text and it will all work out. The first thing I said to my daughter when it happened was, “This is a test. I have to pass this test!”

katieblogGod is making me better. It’s little things like this that make us stronger. I handed my landlord the check this morning and told him I have moved the money from PayPal, but when it shows up is in God’s hands. Moving forward, I will pay them on the first of every month. I don’t have to play the victim today and sit on a pity pot.

Living life on life’s terms sober is how I roll. Whatever life throws at me is for my good. It will grow me and if nothing else makes me grateful. Being grateful for a sound mind, not clouded by alcohol and a strong heart. To be able to love myself and not have to blame anyone for their behavior making me want to drink. I am free.

God is my fortress. He is my shelter from every storm. By walking through what lies ahead and getting to the other side unscathed, life is indeed beautiful. I encourage you today to be still and know, He is God. He doesn’t need our help, only our hearts.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

 

 

Make Me Wait

“When God when?”, is my thinking.  “Wait Barbara wait”, is what I hear. Thoughts?

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I have not been good at waiting. Being patient and waiting are two different things. Patience reflects the good attitude during the wait. Without patience, I can bulldoze through and make things happen. Today, I choose to wait.

waitingResponding verses Reacting. We live in a ‘Now’ society. Everything is drive thru now. You can get married in a drive thru and probably even accept Jesus. When we get what we want quickly, there is no time involved to weigh out it’s worth. It’s worth is weighed by the waiting. It’s the attitude I keep during the waiting that is a struggle. Keeping a positive attitude in the wait.

Making good choices take time. I like to wait 3 days before making a critical decision. If it has the ability to alter my path, I can wait. It took Jesus three days to rise from the dead. A lot can happen…

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Being An Adult

I love being an adult. When you’re a teenager, you are too young for most of what you would like to do and too old for the rest. Being an adult, you can do most anything you want to do, within reason of course. I do have boundaries.

I’ve started to journal again. It started a couple of weeks ago with a gratitude list and evolved from there. The book I was writing in is one of my favorites, but small and difficult manage. A trip to the barn took me to just the right book.

blog I’ve had a very quiet season with God the past few months. It’s like He moved us into this house and said, “Wait for it.” He is moving now and everyday I see something new. A small thing happens where I can tell we are on the same path. Everything that has occured this year is starting to make sense now. It’s very exciting.

I was curled up on my bed with a cup of green tea and this book I want to use as my journal. It made me pause and wonder, how many women get to do this? To curl up in the middle of their bed, in early evening and gaze out the windows and just be. I don’t have to do anything, but I get to.

I get to be an adult and become whatever God wants me to be. My daughter just turned 16 and wants to go to Australia in a couple of years. I’d better enjoy this next couple of years I have with her because they go by too fast. If you are a Mom with more than one child and the only time you get to curl up in bed is for sleep, be encouraged. It won’t last, so enjoy where you are.

You see, 10 years ago, I put my dreams on hold to be the best Mom I could possibly be. God doesn’t forget the dreams He puts in your heart. He knows what you’re supposed to be and He’s patient. Today, I am just now starting to see my dreams come back around. They look a little different, but it’s the same general idea. As a matter of fact, it’s going to be better than ever before. So, I am going to go back to my bed and journal and be grateful that I get to.

 

 

 

 

This Is Only A Test

If you read my Blog yesterday, you know, I’ve been on vacation in Colorado with limited Internet. The home we’re staying in didn’t have it, so we would drive into town to find it. This is my last day here and it was installed today.

First and foremost, kudos goes out to Mr. Smith. He has been so patient with me this week. When you consider, everything I do is conducted virtually, it was not pretty the first few days. He is in the kitchen right now, being who he is, a Chef. I’m in the same room I was yesterday, typing this Blog with the windows open, listening to the musical sound of the river. This time, I’m not typing a word document to copy and paste later in town. I am actually online.

We respect one another for who we are and what we do. While he is in the kitchen, no one enters. Oh, it’s tempting, but one look from him and I know better. He plays music very loudly, and it’s a mixture of everything. I can hear it echoing through the house, down the hallway to the room I’m in. He just popped his head in the door, and asked if I was going to stay in here all night. I won’t, but it is a struggle not to stop and close the door on some of that music.

lakeI have spent almost a week in Colorado and it’s been beautiful. When people tell you to drink plenty of water in high altitude, listen to them. I was in a world of pain from dehydration. Drinking my usual, coffee in the morning, hot tea in the evening, and sips of water during the day wasn’t enough. I spent all day yesterday drinking water and my body thanked me today.

I know my body pretty well, but had not felt anything like this before. Once we pinpointed it was the change in elevation, about 6,000 feet, I knew what to do. With no distraction from technology, I was able to hear from God quite often. God gave me insight into the future of my writing, coaching, work, this school year for my daughter, my relationships and Himself.

The repacking process will begin this evening, to head back to Texas. My daughter turns sweet sixteen this Saturday and I wouldn’t miss it. We haven’t seen one another in over a week and that’s been an adjustment as well. We are best friends and she is a light in my life.

This was definitely a week of tiny tests, and I hope I passed them. There were a lot of little things that occurred, too many to list here, that were lessons. Being here placed me in present moment to present moment as I listened and learned. Gratitude is running high, for the friends and family God has given me and the love I have in my life today.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a LetItgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is working on her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

Do You Like The Person You’ve Become

Do you like the person you’ve become? A week ago, I would have answered yes to that question, but now I have cause to pause. I am on vacation in the Colorado mountains and there is no Internet.

It was all fine and good, riding toward our destination, looking at my phone with 4G and 5 bars. We hit a threshold in elevation and all these comforting lights on my phone just disappeared. The only light showing up was the battery charge light and this bothered me more than I wanted to admit.

blog12I had lost all communication with civilization. I couldn’t post a Blog, or check my Letitgocoach Facebook page. My daughter is vacationing with her Dad in Florida, but I’m pretty sure Florida has 4G, so she could text me but I couldn’t text her. I didn’t realize how much the connectivity had become a part of who I am. I wasn’t sure I liked who was staring at her phone in utter sadness.

Our car transitioned from pavement onto a dirt road and made it’s way across a wooden bridge. Driving from Texas, the temperature had dropped significantly and to me it felt cold. The movie, “Deliverance’ came to mind as we made our way through the woods as the road came to an end. There stood a lovely, Colorado style home made of wood, rock and windows, nestled alone in the forest. Stepping out of the car, I became aware of a loud, roaring noise.

Behind the house was a rushing river. It was very loud and was making itself known full force. I took a couple of pictures and made a note to post it on Facebook when we were in town. The river was so loud, you could hear it from inside the house with the windows shut. The house had doors that would seal shut upon closing and it blocked some of the noise, but several windows hung open.

It took me a few days to get acclimated to my new surroundings. I was amazed how this natural environment was such a contrast to what I was used to. This was how God made it to be. Cool, crisp air, and the sun pouring into the windows so brightly, you needed sunglasses to walk through the house. Feeling the warmth from a fire in the fireplace, and sleeping underneath a down comforter, in August.

I had become more connected virtually than to nature. For this natural environment to seem like Twilight Zone material is not natural. I shouldn’t feel more comfort looking at a phone screen lit up than the night sky. The sight and sound of a raging river should not be noise, it should be a soothing sound. I find it humorous now, that my first thought was to post a picture of it on Facebook, instead of enjoying it.