Still Being Still

I made a promise to God that I would be still this month and watch what He’s doing in my life. Look back at what He has done and what is the direction of 2016. This promise came into play before I thought about it being December.

It’s a challenge to be still in December, but it’s worth it spending quality time with God and people. To be still is not the same as sitting still and even when I sit still, it’s difficult to just ‘be’ in that moment. My mind wants to be busy.

I am learning so much just by being still, watching and listening. My morning meditation leaped off the page at me this morning. “I AM WORKING ON YOUR BEHALF”, were the first few words I read. Then, “Bring Me all your concerns, including your dreams. Talk with Me about everything, letting the light of My presence shine on your hopes and plans. Spend time allowing My Light to infuse your dreams with life, gradually transforming them into reality.” (Jesus Calling pg. 362)

My promise to God to be still. He is showing me things every day that I will share with you here. When I’m still.

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer, Entrepreneur and Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and will only eat cake with real buttercream icing. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name given. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

Live Love Learn

People fascinate me. Taking time recently to read about the differences between men and women, relationships, friendships, and it’s all fascinating. The month of December is when I set aside time for awareness and to learn.

blog2This month will be a time to reflect over 2015. What worked and what didn’t? What is working now and what is not? If it hasn’t worked all year, do I really want to bring it into next year? How much room do I have on this platter of life? I left room to try some new things next year.

Not having a successful marriage caused me to question having a successful relationship. We all have parts of it that worked, but will they work in the next relationship? From what I can gather, it’s a new relationship, so everything is new. This is what will make a new you too.

Every day is new as is every moment. Treat the new person as new.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer, Entrepreneur and a Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and will only eat cake with real buttercream icing. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name given. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

Gratitude and Acceptance

This is the beginning of the busiest time of life called, the Holiday season.  Menus are being hashed out among family members. It will be a short work week for most, so they can load up the car and start their journey to be with family Thanksgiving Day. I hope people will pause this week and be thankful. I believe we should pause every day for this.

blog1The first thing I learned in sobriety was being grateful. Waking up without a hangover was miraculous for me and gratitude began. It was suggested I make a Gratitude List. There were days, looking at my circumstances, I didn’t see much to be grateful for.

This forced me to look within myself and to stop looking at what was happening, or not happening around me.

Waking up and waking up sober was enough for me. Having those two things made everything else possible.

Do you accept where you are in life right now, at this very moment?

This week people will ponder being thankful. Accepting where you are and being grateful for everything you have, even if that is just breath in your body; be thankful. It may look like nothing, but it’s actually everything you need. Be patient and have a good attitude while you wait. God will give us more when we can be grateful for what we have and patiently wait for more.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer, die hard Entrepreneur and a Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and will only eat cake with real buttercream icing. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name given. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and God’s goodness. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

 

 

 

Words Of Wisdom

Do you keep a Journal?

I have written in a few of them over the years. It’s fun to find one from years ago, and go through and read parts of it. The scenario described is recognizable, but the person is not. It’s almost like picking up someone else’s journal and reading it. It’s good to read it and see how much my life and I have changed. Gotten older, of course, but also wiser.

Does wisdom come with age?

I think it’s a combination of time and experiences, so maybe that is why more mature people seem wiser. Each experience takes time. Some may take a few weeks, while others take months or years. Whichever the case, we spend time in a certain area of our life and learn valuable lessons. Every experience teaches us something if we allow.

SpainI have a book that I’ve been writing in for a couple of years. It’s called my Book of Wisdom. When I need an encouraging word, I flip through that book. The pages hold prayers I prayed the first year on my own with my daughter. They are covered with phrases, quotes, and Bible verses I need to hear.

Do I need Encouragement?

Yes, I do. Being an Encourager is what I do and a large part of who I am. My daughter gets tickled at me on those off days, finding me scanning through my Letitgocoach Facebook page. I pour a lot of words of wisdom onto that page, so it makes sense that I would go back and look at it.

There are tons of great quotes out there, but one of my favorites is “Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.” This quote was written in my book on 6-8-13. One year later, almost to the day, this Blog was born. Coincidence? I don’t this so. We all need encouragement, and when we do, it’s only a matter of looking, until we find the right words.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

Just Be Held

Sitting at my desk early this morning, I heard the chickens by my window. That would mean they were in the front yard, instead of the side. They had jumped the fence, looking for me because they had a need. I walked them back through the gate, gave them food and made a note to replenish their water. Isn’t that how life should be?

To be cared for. The only being I have found that consistently cares for me is God. There are no strings attached, no ultimatums, no scenarios, just seek Him and He’ll care for me. He provides my every need and loves me flaws and all.

pathI was driving home the other day, and Casting Crowns came on the radio. Driving down the road, I listened closely to this song entitled, Just Be Held. It made perfect sense to me. I had been where the song is describing, and I’m there again now. The song says, “Stop holding on and just be held.” That sounds simple, but it’s not easy.

The rest of the chorus says, “Your world’s not falling apart it’s falling into place. I’m on the throne, stop holding on and just be held.” I love that. Do you feel like your world is falling apart? I think it has to fall apart a little to fall back into place better.

We ask His forgiveness, forgive whoever disappointed us and then forgive ourselves. He never stopped loving us; we just need to forgive and move forward. That is the kind of love I seek. The kind that will encourage me to grow when I feel strong and when I’m not, I can just be held. The arms of God will never let you go.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

Learning To Live

We are getting much needed rain here in Texas. I have three chickens in the side yard that have not witnessed rain in a long time. When it started to pour from the sky, they freaked out and started running around. They have a coop to provide shelter, with the door standing wide open, but are huddled up against the house instead. They are called chickens for a reason.

blog1Maybe we forgive and forget how things feel. Forgiveness has to come first, or the forgetting will not take place. It will haunt us and make us miserable until we forgive. God wants us to forgive others for wrongdoing, but we often forget to forgive ourselves.

The house my ex-husband lives in is the same house we shared. When I left, I only took a few things, so you couldn’t tell at first glance, that anything was missing. The furnishings remained the same as I left them, with a few replacement pieces. I don’t know how he has lived there. I guess he hasn’t. It has just been sheltering from the storms of life.

brokenI saw that house as a slow brewing storm or vortex. My ex-husband blames himself for the dissolve of our marriage. It’s not true, but that is how he sees it. Recently, I sent him an email asking him to forgive me for hurting him. I don’t know that he can because he is going to have to find forgiveness for his soul first. He needed to leave that house.

His favorite Bible verse is Jeremiah 29:11. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” His life is not reflective of his favorite verse. When you are stuck in the past, there is no future.

I started praying for God to move and show my ex His goodness. It was passed time for him to leave that house, and all the haunting memories it stored. Last weekend, my ex took our daughter to look at a house he saw in the newspaper. She showed me pictures of it, and it’s the perfect house for him! He is moving in November!

When my ex and I first met, he lived in a condo on a lake in Virginia. This house is reminiscent of that condo, and is overlooking a lake! God is restoring the years lost, by placing him in the last place he was his happiest. Now he can have a beautiful shelter, surrounded by God’s goodness and start the forgiving process. Let the healing begin.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

Before The Breakthrough

I have been going through a season of being tired. That is not the norm for me, so I have been quiet and pondering every action beforehand. Yesterday, I woke up sick, which never happens. This tells me a breakthrough is coming.

Isn’t that how it happens? We give and give until we wear ourselves out and then become weary in well doing?

blogDo not faint. That is what I’m telling myself. Slow and steady will win the race.

In a high tech world where everything happens instantly, this is not easy. Everything I lay my hand to, I give it one year. If I’m on the right path, God will show me the fruits of my labor along the way. If there is no fruit, it’s time to revisit the mission. I don’t believe in trying to fit a square peg into a round hole anymore.

My Letitgocoach Facebook page is a great example. I began that journey, last June, and from June until December 2014, I posted 52 times. That’s not a lot, right? You see, I was testing the waters just to see if it would take off and encourage people. That was all I wanted was to give people a safe place to come and be refreshed.

This year, from January 2015, up until now, I have posted 10 times that amount. God showed me that what I was doing was good and I had a couple of hundred likes for a long time. It slowly began to grow in more likes. I was reaching a few more people each week and encouraging them along their journey. I thought it would be fabulous to hit 1,000 likes.

The page surpassed 1,000 likes. God gave me 1,500 instead of my 1,000, and it’s growing daily. This is a dream come true for me! To reach out and hug people virtually everyday and let them know, a beautiful life is waiting for them. To provide a place where they know they can come on a consistent basis and see beauty. That is what it’s all about.

Simple.

Let me encourage you today, if you are laying your hand to something and you are growing weary, do not give up! Being tired, or getting sick is that stinkin’ devils way of making you think you need a break. I was tempted to take a week off, and God knows my heart. That is exactly when the Facebook page started encouraging more people. It started showing more activity and then I knew, I could not faint. I was exactly where I needed to be and so are you.

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com