Make Me Wait

I have not been good at waiting. Being patient and waiting are two different things. Patience reflects the good attitude during the wait. Without patience, I can bulldoze through and make things happen. Today, I choose to wait.

waitingResponding verses Reacting. We live in a ‘Now’ society. Everything is drive thru now. You can get married in a drive thru and probably even accept Jesus. When we get what we want quickly, there is no time involved to weigh out it’s worth. It’s worth is weighed by the waiting. It’s the attitude I keep during the waiting that is a struggle. Keeping a positive attitude in the wait.

Making good choices take time. I like to wait 3 days before making a critical decision. If it has the ability to alter my path, I can wait. It took Jesus three days to rise from the dead. A lot can happen in three days! Waiting can wear me out and make me weary in well doing, but I must not faint.

I wait while writing every Blog. God will show me a topic and I see the title. That always comes first, but it’s up to me and my patience in knowing what that title should mean. There are many avenues it could take. Choosing what I want to share is the hardest part. It sits and waits while I type.

I have heard, to see patience in a  person, sit them down in front of a computer with very slow Internet. Remember dial up connection?

I have learned less is indeed more. Two weeks ago I thought the length of my Blog reflected the amount of which my heart had stored. Looking at this today, I realize it just took a lot of words to get around to what I really wanted to say. So, I ask you, How long should we wait? At what point does waiting fall into cowardice? Feel free to comment.


blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email.




I Just Died

A few months ago, I posted this Blog  I’m Drowning But Don’t Save Me.  Just a few days ago I died. It took months for it to happen because everything takes time. What I learned in that time is the difference between life and death.

I love to write. Words are very important to me and they fall out of my heart and onto paper, or in this case, a screen. Normally, I use a picture of a quote within my Blog to make it more attractive or prettier. Today, I don’t need to  because I can paint you a picture with my words. I can open my heart, and allow the words to fall out for you to see. It’s up to you how carefully you read and hear. We have to die a few times in life before we are able to really live.

I learn to wait. In October, 2014, I wrote Every Little Thing. Notice the difference in the amount of words in these two titles. I have learned it doesn’t take a lot of words to say something. If you look at my ‘Recent Posts’ listened on the right side of my home page, you will see a pattern. The titles are all three words or less. You are reading this Blog and you clicked on it because of the title. I hope by reading it, you are filled up with what is here for you to receive.

I love my music. My favorite song at this very moment is Mr. Hotness himself, Brett Eldredge, Mean To Me. Brett is very nice to look at, but I learned long ago, it’s not what I see on the outside that matters. It’s always the inside first and that will ooze through the pores for me to see. Today, this song tells the story of the man I want to love me. That is where I am. I don’t have to have his love, just the man. Love takes time and I am learning to wait for that man.

The sun is hitting the screen of my laptop now and it’s showing all the dust. I love to write but looking at the screen does not bring me joy. This tells me it’s time for me to stop typing and move on to the next thing I love. This Blog has written with love and it flowed from my heart through my fingers. It’s written throughout and I hope you can feel it.


Sharpening My Machete

Patience. I am learning if all I do is wait, everything will work out for the greater good. People get caught up in the ‘doing’ of life. There is a big difference between taking steps forward each day and running through a field with a machete. If you choose the latter of the two. It better be sharp.

option-2a8hEvery now and then, I get to a point in my life where I need to weed. With Spring coming up, it always surprises me that weeds come up first. They will start to show off before the grass and flowers. They are the same color as grass, so driving by you can enjoy the green color. Looking closely you will see their true nature. If not tended to, they will cover the beautiful grass and choke it out.

In Texas we have weeds that are considered flowers. I’m sorry, but there is nothing more pure than an actual flower. The weed tries to imitate, but is weak. An imposter. Go cut a bunch of blooming weeds and put them in a vase of water, and then purchase a small bouquet of flowers and do the same. See which one lasts longer and brings you more joy.

Get out your machete and start whacking some weeds. They have deep roots, so you may haveta dig! Start whacking, pulling, digging or spraying today!  Whatever they are in your life, they will take over and choke out the beauty. Once removed you will immediately see the goodness in bloom!



Gate Closed

My daughter and I moved into our new home this week. We have a large metal gate at the opening of our driveway. While we were moving all our belongings into the house, the gate was always open. Once we finished, the man who built the house shut the gate. We drove up that night to a closed gate and it was the strangest feeling. Was it trying to keep us out? No. It was protecting what’s inside.

blogReflecting on this Easter Sunday, Christ went through massive suffering so we don’t have to. I stayed in suffering, for many years because I didn’t know any different. It’s a learned behavior. Sometimes life starts out hard and we learn it young. Other times, it’s a gradual ascent over time where we just end up there. However you got there doesn’t matter as much as knowing, you don’t have to stay there.

It’s up to us. Christ died so we could enjoy a beautiful life. The advice our parents drilled into us falls short now. Go to college, learn a skill and work hard the rest of your life doesn’t cut it. Your gift will take you farther than any job will.

I was fearful for about half a minute thinking about this move. The actual moving of items was work, but God had this house just sitting here empty, waiting on us. I don’t know why we’re here, or what’s ahead. My life was good where I was. God always has more in store and I was ready for more bettah.

Today, I am open to receiving all the goodness He has in store. No more fear or living a life of suffering. If you are ready to step out of your past, I’m hosting a Virtual Workshop in 2 weeks. Would love to have you join me! We can drive through that gate together and Let It Go.

No Worries

Growing up I saw my Mother and Grandmother worry about everything. Most of which, hadn’t even happened yet. I promised myself right then and there…I would not do that when I grow up. Still haven’t grown up, but I don’t worry!

I have not seen where worrying has ever solved a potential crisis. It takes a lot of energy to worry and will eventually effect your mind, body, health and quality of life. Harness that energy and put it toward your dream life. If something scary looking is on the horizon, it will either pass through or go away. Be grateful if it falls apart before it reaches you, and be grateful if it hits you like a storm. Storm’s pass and you will be stronger for standing firmly in it.

GodisupMy friends will tell you, I love to analyze. Getting to the root of everything is what I enjoy. Finding a balance between analyzing and trusting God is a delicate state for me. Over the years, I have learned to just let it go and trust God. He has my best interests at heart, so if I need to go through some stuff, He’s going to be my strong tower.

This builds faith and character. He wants us to trust and depend on Him for every little thing. If He can create the universe, I’m pretty sure he can handle whatever comes my way. It breaks my heart to see a woman’s face with permanent frown lines. It looks like she’s frowning even when she’s not. This tells me she has spent a lot of time worrying for her face to have those lines. A lot more time worrying than smiling for sure.

I would much rather smile. When you smile it makes you feel lighter and cheerful. Smile at someone and they will smile back at you. Smiles are contagious. If you must worry, turn that worry into prayer. Just keep laying it at God’s feet until you receive peace. All we have is today and this present moment. Don’t waste your time worrying about what’s going to happen. Face it when and if it gets here. Do the next right thing and make good choices through it. You will be better and stronger on the other side.



All I Know

Walking in God’s will. What is God’s will? How do we know? What if I miss it? Guess what? God knows where you live. If you miss it the first time around, He will find you and give you another shot.

GodswillWhen I don’t know what to do, I ask God for His wisdom. He will give it. Sometimes that is the main problem. Me and doing. All we have to do is follow Him and be obedient when He prompts us to do something. Sounds simple doesn’t it? Then why do we make it so hard?

Because we’re human and He gave us free will. Those two things right there are plenty for us to get into trouble! That’s why it’s so important to listen to that still small voice inside you and do what it says. God knows how to grab my attention. If I’m getting ready to step out and do something that is not His will, I will lose my peace immediately.

god_is_goodDo you ever have that uneasy feeling that something is just not right? Stop and sit with that until He reveals it. Just walking one step at a time, one day at a time works best for me. Do the next right thing. It’s that simple. Before doing something ask yourself, “Is this the next right thing?” Do you feel peace after asking? Look for signs and listen to your body.

You are not alone in life. God is ginormous and ours for the asking! Driving home this evening, I needed a sign from Him. I needed to know if I was in His will. Sitting at a stoplight, I noticed a transfer truck turning left and coming slowly toward me. He was going so slow and easy into his lane to my left, that I felt compelled to stop and look at the truck. Up at the top of the cab, the words were written in cursive, “God Is Good.” That’s all I know and that’s all I need to know.


Ya Gotsta Move It Move It

This week, I had not planned on getting organized to move. This little farm house has been our ‘Safe Haven’ for almost two years. Last December, I wrote out my goals for 2015. A new house was not on the page, but everything I listed was going to lead us to more. God knows your heart, and He knows when it’s time to move.

Quotes About Moving On 0013-15 2We have to let go of where we are, so God can move us to where He wants us to be. Bailey and I started talking about what our next house would look like. It would be a little bit larger, have a washer and dryer, a bathtub (we have a shower), and a fenced yard for Augustus, Bailey’s Blue Heeler pup. We would still be on acreage, because we love having land. Long gone are the days I look out my window and see another house.

Bailey found an ad for a little house on 5 acres about an hour away. Most every ad we had seen was out of our budget, but this one met our criteria. We drove out to meet the couple who owned it, and take a look. It was a beautiful, old farm house that had been restored to like new condition. The owner had put a lot of himself in that house to bring it up to what it is today.

We stepped through the little wood gate onto the lush, green lawn, and almost bumped our heads on the branch of a giant Oak Tree. (Disco Ball) The next thing I saw was a clothesline. I love hanging sheets outside! That wasn’t on my list, but it must have been on my heart. above

We walked in the back door and entered a large mud room. The man who rebuilt this house is a carpenter by trade, so he had filled this room with custom cabinetry! Underneath the cabinets stood, a washer and dryer. On into the kitchen were more custom cabinets and a sweet pantry. Looking into the main living area was a mass of hand rubbed, hardwood flooring. It didn’t surprise me much when we got to the bathroom and there sat a large tub. I was so overwhelmed with God’s goodness by then, it was like walking through a dream. eggs

God had this ready and waiting for us. Once we started talking about it and became willing, in a blink of the eye, everything fell into place seamlessly. The glory goes to God! We did nothing but ask, but it was already there waiting.

Bailey noticed something about the way the yard was fenced. It had a row from the side of the house to the fence of the yard. She said, “Chicken’s?!” I was stunned. There was a little wooden house already in place that would make the perfect coop. I used to raise chickens and it brought immense joy to my life. There is nothing better than to have a basket of colorful eggs in the kitchen everyday. God knows your heart.