Open That Can Of Whoop A

What we allow to continue will continue. That is one of my favorite quotes and one of the hardest to implement. I’m a pretty laid back woman but when I get to the edge of a particular situation, I blow. When I was first learning how to spend time with God and pray, I would pray for patience. God had about a years worth of entertainment with me giving me more than enough to be patient about. Don’t pray for patience.

ignoreMy daughter is 15 years old and wise beyond her years. She doesn’t allow people or their behaviors to affect her. Everything I preach and every quote I’ve ever said has stuck to her like glue and she’s a mighty sight to behold. Now she gives me quotes and shares her strength with me daily. I strive to be more like her.

She’s active but selective with social media. Snapchat is one of her favorite tools of communication. I think it’s cool because you can show someone the expression on your face and also type a text across the screen. It’s the closest thing I’ve seen to receiving a message with emotion.

When you Snapchat someone, and they open it, which your phone will reveal, it’s considered rude if you don’t Snapchat back immediately. My daughter and I  live in a drama free environment, so it’s hilarious when she dramatically says, “FINE! DON”T SNAPCHAT ME BACK YOU PEASANT!”  It’s not good if my daughter calls you a ‘peasant’.

We burst out laughing, I say a quick prayer for the poor soul who didn’t respond, and she moves on. She’ll pick up her guitar and practice for her next cover, or go do schoolwork, just whatever is on her list that needs to be accomplished that day. She’s completely over it within seconds. It’s a phenomenon.

At fifteen years old, she’s got this. It should be of value when we allow people to enter our lives and truly be a part of it. You are valuable and you need to be treated as such. It’s rude to be ignored. Go over this list I try to live by and make sure the people you’ve allowed in, live up to these standards. Do they love you, motivate you, encourage you, inspire you, enhance you and bring you joy? If not…I’ll hold the can of Whoop A, and you pop the top.

 

Your Teflon Umbrella

I received this yesterday from a Blog I follow, Positive Outlook Blogs. It reminded me of all the storms I survived last year. This doesn’t include the ones created over my lifetime. Just the ones from 2014 were massive enough.

Man walking at sunsetNobody enjoys storms. Sometimes they are created by previously made choices that can compound into a storm. Sometimes they are created by others and I don’t tolerate drama very well. If I cannot remove that person from my circle, if they are family, I set strict boundaries and make it clear that I won’t participate in their drama. I can pray for them but cannot fix them or what they’re going through. It’s best to leave it in God’s hands.

The one thing I know about storms is, we are a better person afterwards. Just like the post says, “You won’t be the same person who walked in.” I barely remember my storms. What caused them and how I survived. It’s kinda like childbirth where you don’t remember the pain so much, because you’re left holding the most precious of gifts afterwards. We need to break out our umbrellas made of Teflon and weather every storm. No running allowed. Stand firm, hold your ground, and come out of it a better person than the one who walked in.

 

Sign Me Up

Last year I learned about gratitude. I’ve always been grateful, but was ready to dig into what gratitude looks like and feels like. That was my mission. Making a daily gratitude list was helpful. There’s something about making a list with pen and paper that satisfies the soul.

sign1I picked up this sign yesterday at a local shop downtown. Walking though these shops bring me joy. Seeing all the interesting things for sale, and sometimes beauty abounds. Something has to speak to me from across the room to consider bringing it home. You have probably read that I’m not into material things anymore, so it really has to scream!

Last year my mantra was gratitude, so this year I’ve chosen to pull gratitude, thankfulness and appreciation together and see what that looks like. Boil it down and maybe we have a bucket full of blessings to look through. God is good.

For someone on the outside looking in, it may not look like I have much. I used to have a guest house bigger than the home I live in now. Living here means I don’t spend a lot of time cleaning and maintaining stuff. I rarely dust because everything is used frequently and doesn’t have time to get dusty.

sign2I don’t count the electric guitar sitting in the line up of guitars. Bailey plays all her guitars, but the electric doesn’t get played as often. She still loves it, but we have to wipe the dust off every now and then.

Hanging yesterday’s purchase this morning, prompted me to hang a few more. The one that says, “When Pigs Fly” is made of wood. It was propped on a shelf and every time thunder shook the house, it would fly off the shelf and startle me.

All of them mean something to my daughter and me, so today they earn their own space. We have room to collect more but we’ll be discerning in our choice. They were scattered throughout the house, but the large ‘God’ sign brought them all together. If you noticed the spots of light on the wall you have a good eye. Those are the reflection from the Disco Ball hanging from the ol’ oak tree.

 

 

 

You Are Worthy

There are a couple of Farmer’s Markets, not far from my house, that I love walking through on Saturday morning’s. For the vendors, this is their livelihood and a delicious service to the community. If you read, “The Final Day of A Better Way To Live“, the Farmer’s Market is the perfect opportunity to give of yourself. I say hello and hug most of the vendors. It was cold this morning, so they were bundled up, but present. They were so happy to see a smiling face, it didn’t really matter if I made a purchase. The hug, smile, chit chat and laugh were enough.

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Bathroom Mirror

As I was getting ready this morning, I read the writing on my bathroom mirror, and wanted to share. This statement was given to me by a friend of mine and I passed it onto my daughter. We say this out loud daily, and my daughter, Bailey, wrote it on the mirror. Isn’t that one of the places we look for approval?

“I am strong enough, pretty enough, smart enough, and I am worthy of all good!”

There is a difference between using a mirror to get ready, and looking in the mirror and seeing the person looking back. My hope is that you like that person looking back, because God doesn’t make no junk. It took me a long time to be able to look into a mirror after my drinking career. Once I did, I knew there was someone in there worthy of all good.

Write it on your mirror. Speak it out loud for you to hear. Give it breath and life and above all else, believe it’s true. Because it is.

 

The Final Day of A Better Way To Live~Day 17

My hope is that you get this quicker than I did. It took me over half my life to find this truth.

Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.

happinessI have had a lot of levels of success, and all the material objects that brings. None of that brought me happiness. If it did it was a fleeting moment like driving the car off the showroom floor. It was temporary like the new car smell.

I finally realized if I was happy on the inside, I was successful. Success doesn’t bring happiness; happiness brings success in every area of my life.  Giving of myself to others bring even more happiness. A friend once told me, “You can’t give away what you don’t have, but you must give away what you want to keep.”

Let the goodness on the inside of you flow onto others. It will come back to you in such abundance, you’ll never be able to give it all away.

 

 

 

What Woke Me Up

We met in the kitchen, staring at one another with that wide-eyed look of, “What do we do?” It had been eight years since I had heard that noise requiring attention. It was almost 4 am, and this had been going on for a little while. The high-pitched cry, squeal and whining noise coming from the next room, had woken us up, and it was time for action. Not sure what type, we were going to have to dive in and start marking things off the list until happiness resumed.

bayThis picture is my daughter, Bailey, and it describes her perfectly. She took this a couple of days ago, and when she showed it to me, my heart melted. I could see she wasn’t a little girl anymore and she was growing into a beautiful young lady. Wearing her Vintage, Polo golf hat and resting her arm on her treasured Taylor guitar. That’s Bay.

She’s been wanting a puppy for months. We have been talking it through, and praying for the right time and the right dog to enter our lives. We knew that a neighbor’s Australian Cattle Dog, had given birth to a litter around Thanksgiving, so we went to look at them. Need I say more?

The sounds that woke us up in the middle of the night were from her new puppy. We went through a series of activities trying to meet his basic needs. I finally held him close and snug up against me and he fell asleep. All he wanted was to feel loved and secure. Just like us.

puppyAs I walked by her bedroom door this morning, I peeped in looking for the pup. He was sound asleep with her in the bed. Coming into the den with coffee in hand, it occurred to me that she could handle this. My past experience has been, me helping the cat have kittens and me taking care of the puppy who is now eight years old. This is not about me.

It’s about Proverbs 22:6, “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.” She’s old enough now to do so many things without my assistance. My hope is that she will pass me and do more! It’s a hard thing for a Mom to admit, but at the same time, it’s a proud Mama moment.

 

 

 

Take It Or Leave It

We had a beautiful Christmas and are looking forward to the New Year. This has been a truly great year! That doesn’t mean it’s been easy or uneventful. I choose to look at life’s challenges as opportunity for growth. There is always something to learn, which is probably why I refer to ‘lessons learned’ so often. God willing, I will never stop learning.

rightsI posted this on Facebook a while back, and caused quite a stir. The picture says it all, but the quote drives it home. Have you thought about what and who you’re going to allow to go with you into 2015? Please ponder.

I encourage to leave the past behind you and step into newness. If you’ve been carrying the past with you, how has that served you so far?

I always remind my daughter, “They can’t have a valid opinion where they don’t have any responsibility.” Take some time before the New Year, and see how you want 2015 to look. What would you change? Who would you delete from your contacts list? When my daughter and I were moving from our existing life into a new one, she wasn’t sure what to pack to take with her. She saw me packing up items, but being selective. I told her, “Only pack it if it brings you joy. If it adds love and light to your life, then bring it, otherwise, leave it.’

That is my best advice to you for 2015. If it brings you love, light and joy then take it with you into the New Year. Otherwise, leave it.