I just pressed my third cup of coffee out of the Keurig, so you would think I would be feeling energized. It used to help wake me up, and give me a jolt in the mornings. Not so much anymore, so maybe it’s time for a change. I have stopped ‘doing’, and begun ‘letting’.
I read an article this morning on having no expectations. This one started out like most, but then it got my attention. Instead of expecting certain things out of life, the one you love, or yourself for that matter…Take the limits off God. I lay all my petitions before Him, so He knows my heart and desired outcome, but then I leave it there. I never know what to expect.
This opens up endless opportunity. As far as relationships go, here are a few things I’ve learned.
1.He Loves Me, But Loves Himself First.
Does your partner take good care of themselves? The care they take of themselves, will be a reflection of how well they care for you. There should be a healthy balance of self care, and loving you.
2. His Love For Me.
This is where I had to lay all expectations aside. You have heard the saying, “Stop breaking your own heart?” That is what occurs when I expect to be loved at a certain level. Everyone loves differently, and we cannot compare past loves to the present. Those were stepping stones to prepare us for this. It’s not about lowering our expectations. It’s about being open to change.
3. He Encourages My Ideas and Creativity.
If your love ever tells you, “That’s a stupid idea,” or better yet, “You are stupid.” you will need to hit them with a pipe. Creative ideas sound rather far fetched at first, but it’s that initial seed we plant. Saying it outloud to someone we trust, and value the opinion of, gets the ball rolling. You are not stupid….You are creative and open-minded. Stay that way.
4. Let Them Love You.
This is where the expectations of your mind can get in the way. Allowing someone to love you the best way they know how, should be enough. This love doesn’t look like anything I’ve ever had, or anything I imagined, but that lines up with God. Isaiah 55:8 says, “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, and My ways are not your ways.” That’s encouraging to me.
5. Let It Be Easy.
I love seeing posts from my friends, announcing 30 or so years of being married, and exclaiming, “Fight for your marriage.” Bullcrap. There should be no fighting. If you each are doing the next right thing, making good choices for the greater good, it should flow. Yes, life will come at you with a vengeance and try to destroy what’s good, but that is life.
When one is weak, the other is strong. That’s just how it works. You hold one another up during the rough times. They always pass, and should make you better because of it. Always be with someone that brings out the very best in you, and nudges you to become better. There is always more, and more better, so release your expectations to the Lord. Drop your plan and go with His. Get good at not knowing and waiting. He heard you, just be patient.