This Life

I strolled down to the pier early this morning to fellowship with God. This is the one place I can go and feel His presence. A cool, gentle breeze was whipping around the pajama pants I still had on. The pond was alive with activity from fish and various creatures, but at the same time it was peaceful. Our faithful tabby cat, Kisses, followed me down, and waited to see what song I would play.

Scrolling through my playlist, I chose, This Life by The Afters. thislife

We can’t own it
We just get to hold it for a while.
This Life.
We can’t keep it
Or save it for another time.
This Life.

This has been a somber week for me. One of those weeks my daughter would say, “You need to go back and read some of your Blogs.” Practice what I preach sorta thing. I feel like God is getting ready to move big time in my life. You know that, ‘Calm before the storm’ feeling? Everything He’s done up to this point is preparing me for what’s next. He has made me stronger than I need to be for some reason. This allows me to look back at the choices I made this week, and how they will impact my life.

painandhappinessI believe our actions speak louder than words. Sometimes no action, or dead silence screams at us louder than words. My actions this week has caused some to feel hurt, anger, disappointment, confusion, joy, happiness and love. Mama always said, “Be true to yourself”, and I cannot control how my actions are received.

I posted this quote on my Facebook page, and it caused quite a stir. “The one who makes you the happiest is usually the same person who is capable of causing you the most pain and stress.” I love how it uses the word, ‘capable’. Just because they are capable, doesn’t mean it’s ‘allowed’.

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We all need encouragement! A friend gave me a bucket of refreshment this morning. She asked if that was my daughter she saw me with the other day. I told her, ‘Yes’, and she said, “She’s beautiful”! I responded, “Yes, she’s a sweetheart.” She then replied, “That’s because you’re her mother.” Those five words made me very grateful for this life.

 

 

 

Hey….Watch This!

I live in the country, so the title of this post is a rather popular saying by guys around here. It usually precedes a physical act that can lead to an emergency room visit shortly thereafter. As I sit at my desk this morning typing this, I gaze out the window and see my kind of, “Hey…Watch this!” The foliage has grown rather tall around the pond, and it’s earth tone colors made this easy to miss. Looking carefully…I see Stork!

frogIf you’re not familiar with Stork, go back and read, “Just Breathe” for your introduction. There are two that visit our pond, and this morning, it’s the blue-grey Egret. It’s rare to see him, and you have to look closely to spot him during his visit.

He stands majestically in the water, and moves with graceful intention. I go out onto the porch and sit on the stoop to take in a closer look. He takes three long strides, lowering his head toward the water. He plunges his beak below the water level, and pulls back with a fish. As I’m typing this, he has done this three times that I’ve seen. I have more than likely missed seeing the other moments of successful fishing, by moving my attention to the computer screen.

He is in the present moment. He is aware of his surroundings, but focused on what’s in front of him. Breakfast.

nowThere are distractions. Birds are flying all around, and half a dozen or so are having a party on the pier. A truck rides by on the road above, but it doesn’t distract him. He walks away from the road, finds a quieter spot, and retrieves another fish.

Are you enjoying the present moments of your life? I am guilty of not paying attention to what’s important at that moment. Sometimes I’m too focused on what’s at hand, and I miss what just happened beside me. My daughter trying to tell me what just happened in her day. I’m practicing reverting my attention from work, to focusing on her and listening to what’s she’s trying to share. This is her present moment, and we won’t get it back. If I miss too many of these, she will be less likely to invite me in.  I’ll wake up one day and she’ll be out living her own life, and I’ll depend on email and Instagram to see her moments. That’s just wrong! Lol

presentmomentI encourage you today to pay attention to what’s around you, and what’s in front of you. A fabulous book to help guide you is, “The Miracle of Mindfulness” by Thich Nhat Hanh. This book is beautifully written and pure joy to read. Look around and ‘see’ what’s important. What is happening that wasn’t happening a moment ago?

Guess what? The vacuum is going to sit until plugged in. My world is still and quiet at the moment, but that will change as soon as my daughter wakes up and the cat and dog are set free from their sleeping quarters.

Stork has moved on for the day. I enjoyed catching glimpses of his present moment experience. The fish could learn a lot from Stork, and so could we.

 

No Regrets

noregretsJust because we have them, doesn’t mean we have to keep them. The dictionary describes it as: Regret is a negative conscious and emotional reaction to personal past acts and behaviors. Regret is often expressed by the term “sorry.”That is encouraging to me because it reveals itself as consciousness and emotion, which we have control over. It also places it in the past, which we can choose not to live in anymore.

Some of you know, I spent a third of my life drowning in alcoholism. Early in my sobriety, I told a friend that I regretted all the years I lost to drinking, and wish I had them back. She quickly told me, “God was with you that whole time. Watching over you, protecting you, and allowing that experience to form you into the person you are today.” It’s true, and I wouldn’t have met her. One of my most treasured friends.

lessonThe most important thing to know is….We’re not alone. There are people out there who have done the same stupid things we did, if not worse, and are alive to tell about it. If you want to hear some, go sit in an AA meeting with a lot of newcomers. This is called a ‘Beginners’ meeting, and they usually have just a few days sober. They are full of regret, and share snippets of things they did drunk, and are trying to accept sober. What’s interesting is almost everyone in the room will be nodding their head in agreement as their story unfolds. We can relate to their pain because we did something similar, if not the exact same thing!

I saw a quote this week that grieved me. “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.” Do you know who said it? The late, great Robin Williams. How can a man who brought so much joy to millions of people, live in darkness? I’m guessing he kept it hidden from the world, and it took his life. For me, that would be the ultimate Regret.

Genie…You are now free.

 

 

 

Gopher It!

unicornMy daughter and I have this thing we do. When she shares a great idea, I look at her and say, “Gopher it”! She does the same for me, creating a funny gopher imitation to drive the point home. In plain English it simply means, “Go For It”.

We are limited by our own thinking, so it’s best to leave my life alone and give it to God. “My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the LORD. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.” I’ve seen this verse come to pass in my life many a time. When I think I have a good idea, and put it into play, it usually serves as a springboard into what God has in store. My idea is not really my idea. It’s better than I could have thought of own my own, and God uses that to put me on the path He has for me.

I have a sign hanging in my office that says, “Good things happen to those who go for it!”

What’s holding you back? Feel free to contact me if I can be of service.

 

“Broken Hallelujah”

brokenI love the words to this song by The Afters.

I can barely stand right now.
Everything is crashing down,
And I wonder where You are.

I try to find the words to pray.
I don’t always know what to say,
But You’re the one that can hear my heart.

Even though I don’t know what your plan is,                                                                                      I know You’re making beauty from these ashes.

I’ve seen joy and I’ve seen pain.
On my knees, I call Your name.
Here’s my broken hallelujah.

Have you ever been here? It’s an uncomfortable place to be, but probably the most transformational at the same time. When everything is crashing down around you, and the one thing you know you have…is God. courage

With nothing left to hold onto,
I raise these empty hands to You.
Here’s my broken hallelujah.

You know the things that have brought me here.
You know the story of every tear.
‘Cause You’ve been here from the very start.

That’s the key. God knows exactly where we are and watched as we went there! I woke up one morning to my checking account being overdrawn. That is not a pleasurable site, but knowing God loves me and He has a plan for my good, made me rest in peace that it was going to work out, and it did. It’s when a lot of things like that happen at once that we feel like our sky is falling! I believe in times like that, God knows it will bring us closer to Him. He allows us to face our circumstances that stems from the choices we made. I don’t believe God does things to us….I believe He does everything for us.

Is Your Mind An #OMGFest?

Went to one of the best concerts ever last night with my daughter, and we’ve been to quite a few! It was a beautiful venue, and the weather was perfect, for Texas. You know me, I’m going to observe the crowd, and I saw so many levels of overwhelm. I call these…’OMG Moments’.

My daughter tweeted after the show, “OMGtour is called what it is because that’s all you say after meeting…..”, and tagged all the artists she met. How many OMG Moments do you have during a day or week? When life hits you with rapid fire, or you look at your phone in disbelief at what someone just texted you?

omgfestHere at Letting Go, we teach how to quiet your mind and think thoughts you choose to think. Experts estimate that the mind thinks between 60,000 – 80,000 thoughts a day. That’s an average of 2500 – 3,300 thoughts per hour. What are you thinking?

Thoughts consist of sentences. Sentences consist of words. Words are part of language. The mind uses language, words or pictures to describe or define reality. This means that anytime you hear language or are seeing pictures you know that you are in your mind. At the concert, there were signs everywhere that said, OMG, so you can imagine the extreme energy that was felt.

The young girls were overwhelmed with emotion at meeting and seeing their fav artists. Some to the point of breaking down and crying. I ran into a Mom, who told me, “This is all so overwhelming to me!” The first step is accepting what you see or hear without judgment, that if you’re hearing language or seeing pictures, you are in the mind. I wanted to tell her, “Relax, and enjoy the present moment. It will be gone in a second.” It made my heart hurt that she was so overwhelmed with something I found to be fabulous! This moment for me was about listening and being quiet. lifeoverwhelm

There are situations you will find yourself in that will require the least amount to the greatest amount of involvement. There are times you are there to simply witness what is happening. There are other times you are called to act. There are times you will be called to pay attention and at the perfect moment, you will be called to add your wisdom.

Remember, the mind is aware and it wants to remain in charge. The mind is scared of being peaceful for in the state of peace the mind has no role. This is when breathing exercises are a must. By taking deep breaths, and paying close attention to your breathing, your mind stops. You cannot breathe deep and slowly and think at the same time. Try to be in the being state as much as possible…being present, being grounded, being connected or being aware. We often tell our clients, “You don’t have to think as much as you think you need to think.” The bottom line is….How free do you want to be?

 

 

 

 

Baby Come Back!

One of my Favorite Letting Go Lessons is Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships. It’s trying enough letting go of these people, but what do we do when they come back? It’s simple, but not always easy. Here are some simple steps.

1. Pick a questionable relationship in your life. A questionable relationship is one that does not align with your definition of health and well being.
2. Close your eyes, breathe and be calm.
3. Feel the presence of this person you have identified as questionable. Notice how your body responds to their presence. Take the time to get clear upon the effect they have upon you.
4. Then, answer the following questions:

a. Does this relationship make you feel balanced?
b. In what way does this relationship physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually benefit you?
c. What is the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual cost of this relationship? (I keep a journal beside me to write my answers in)

blogLastly, if there are relationships, which you know to be extremely unhealthy for you, openly listen to your Higher Power. Ask for clarity, strength and courage. If the truth is, it’s time to avoid further harm to your spiritual, emotional, mental and physical well being then rest with that feeling until you are ready to act.

I have witnessed people openly tell the person, “I’m letting you go”. and I’ve seen them detach allowing the person to disappear. You do what’s best for you and your well-being. By you becoming a stronger, more loving person, they will most likely show up again, no matter how you let go. Verbally or quietly.

Maybe by then, you both have changed enough that it can be healthy. I leave you with two of my fav quotes by Joyce Meyer. “Don’t be upset about losing something. It might be putting you in the place you should have been in to begin with.” and “Sometimes God will take something away to straighten you out. He’ll give it back when you’re ready”.