Better Is Coming

I believe that God wants me to receive the very best He has for me. My idea of what life should look like is nothing compared to what God has in mind. Isaiah 55:8 says, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. This is comforting to me today.

betterAlmost two years ago, I looked at my life and asked myself, “Is this God’s best?” It was pretty clear it was nobody’s best because it was a life of barely getting by. God doesn’t barely get by. He is all about abundance in every area of our lives. It was time to make a life changing decision.

I didn’t ask anyone’s opinion of what I should do. Praying and letting God know what steps I saw to take, was all I needed. He could have stopped me at anytime. Did my friends think I was crazy for leaving a 25 year marriage? Yes, they did. Did people think I was crazy for leaving the security of my town to move out in the middle of nowhere? Yep.

I grabbed my daughter, and left everything I knew as familiar, and stepped into the unknown. God had it all waiting for me. The house, land, pier to praise and worship on, nobody knew my name, and they still don’t. This house and the time here has been a place of healing for me. To Let Go of the past so I could enjoy the moment.

Today, God is giving me another new beginning. After going through the Letting Go process and being secure in who I am, it is time to move on. My daughter and I sat down last December and talked about our goals and dreams for 2015. We spoke about a nicer house, and named off some things that were missing with this one that we wanted. We still wanted land, but to have a laundry room with a new washer and dryer would be cool. Just little things.

When we came across this house we are moving into, the owner took us in through the back door. We stepped into a large mudroom lined with custom cabinetry. There was an old dryer sitting there by itself, so I was a little puzzled. After walking through the house, we were in love with all the woodwork and sweet character it held. As we were wrapping up our tour, the owner said, “Don’t worry about that old dryer sitting there. I am having a brand new washer and dryer installed in a couple of weeks.” Welcome home.

Fly With Me

Receiving compliments has been a work in progress for me. I hear what people say, but to actually receive, accept and store it inside is a mighty action. We can work and work at something, but sometimes we just need to loosen our grip and it comes together more easily. It’s not about forcing a change. Let It Go and watch the transformation.

airplaneWhen I found the Letting Go project it was exactly what I needed. Starting a new life and leaving everything I knew as normal, had put me in a space of not knowing. It was time to go in search of the real me and see what that looked like. I had no restrictions, so my options were endless.

I received Lesson One via email, and started reading. It spoke about the mind and body and was very interesting how they affected one another. Reading through the Introduction brought me to the actual lesson about Negative Thinking. Being a positive minded person, I reasoned, “This is not going to help me.” Welp….. I was wrong.

starve I was like a ball of clay that needed to climb up on the potter’s wheel and let ‘er rip! I went through one lesson a week, for 10 weeks. Some weeks were hard, but that is where I would receive my biggest growth. By the time it was complete, I knew who I was, what I wanted and loved my life. It made such a dramatic impact on me, I went on to become a Let It Go Coach, so I could help others let go of their old selves and embrace the new.

I’m hosting an Online workshop in 3 weeks. If you are interested, just click here to find out more. It will be open to 10 participants and we’re half full, so connect with me soon. You cannot always wait for the perfect time. Sometimes you must dare to jump.

 

Falling In Love

I love to love. It hasn’t always been that way. When I didn’t feel loved, over a period of time, my heart hardened. Then came the fortress I built around me. God works through people, so when someone told me, “You’re a hard woman,” that got my attention. I didn’t want to be hard, so it was time to make some changes within. Let It Go.

Fall-in-love-love-processAs I sit here this morning, gazing out the window over the pond, I see Stork. He has been here everyday since we decided to move. Bay and I have been moving stuff over to the new house this week. This morning came the prayer, “Father God. If this is not your will. Stop me now!”

We have always called this home our Safe Haven. It will be two years in May that we left everything we knew and landed on these 40 acres. Today, we are following a path of new adventure. New beginnings. It’s terrifying, but at the same time, exhilarating. It feels like, we did good here, and are healed, whole and ready for bigger and better. We’re just following God and the process of packing everything up and moving one foot in front of the other.

Cannon RebelSL1 024Yesterday, as we were unloading our truck and walking everything into the new house, I paused and took note. Everything little thing was pretty, meant something to us, and had a place waiting in the new home. Opposed to the move two years ago, where we were sorting through a house full, trying to find the items we wished to take. We had gotten our lives down to only having things we love and wish to take with us on this new journey. Nothing will be left behind this go round.

Cannon RebelSL1 053I love this house. It’s a bittersweet morning Inbarbsworld. Today, we go pick up a new bed for the new house. Everything is new and we are just following the process. It is falling in place seamlessly like only God can do. We get to fall in love with every little piece of it, until we wake up one morning very soon in our new home. Glory to God.

 

No Worries

Growing up I saw my Mother and Grandmother worry about everything. Most of which, hadn’t even happened yet. I promised myself right then and there…I would not do that when I grow up. Still haven’t grown up, but I don’t worry!

I have not seen where worrying has ever solved a potential crisis. It takes a lot of energy to worry and will eventually effect your mind, body, health and quality of life. Harness that energy and put it toward your dream life. If something scary looking is on the horizon, it will either pass through or go away. Be grateful if it falls apart before it reaches you, and be grateful if it hits you like a storm. Storm’s pass and you will be stronger for standing firmly in it.

GodisupMy friends will tell you, I love to analyze. Getting to the root of everything is what I enjoy. Finding a balance between analyzing and trusting God is a delicate state for me. Over the years, I have learned to just let it go and trust God. He has my best interests at heart, so if I need to go through some stuff, He’s going to be my strong tower.

This builds faith and character. He wants us to trust and depend on Him for every little thing. If He can create the universe, I’m pretty sure he can handle whatever comes my way. It breaks my heart to see a woman’s face with permanent frown lines. It looks like she’s frowning even when she’s not. This tells me she has spent a lot of time worrying for her face to have those lines. A lot more time worrying than smiling for sure.

I would much rather smile. When you smile it makes you feel lighter and cheerful. Smile at someone and they will smile back at you. Smiles are contagious. If you must worry, turn that worry into prayer. Just keep laying it at God’s feet until you receive peace. All we have is today and this present moment. Don’t waste your time worrying about what’s going to happen. Face it when and if it gets here. Do the next right thing and make good choices through it. You will be better and stronger on the other side.

 

 

You Are Here

You gotta love the directory at a large shopping mall. You walk over to look up the store location of your choice, but first it helps to find the spot that says, “You Are Here.” I want one of those for my life.

acceptThis quote is the mantra for my coaching career. I love the simplicity and have to remind myself of it frequently. It’s very simple to read and say, but much more difficult to do. We like being in control but, I can tell you from experience, it’s more productive to Let It Go.

Our body and mind love pleasure. It will gravitate toward pleasure faster than pain. Some think their life should have a certain amount of pain. That they are not supposed to walk in complete happiness. The saying, “No pain, no gain”, should be debunked. That is one of the many things my program does. It looks at those old beliefs and sayings we grew up hearing, and determines if we want to utilize them in our lives today.

To give up control means stepping into the unknown. That can sound like a scary place to be, but it’s not. I have done this so many times in the past two years alone, today I pretty much run toward the unknown. If you have read any of my blogs, you know I have a ginormous God. Learning to walk by faith, that He has a plan for me and my life, makes stepping into the unknown easier. You could do it with a positive mental state as well. To know that everything is going to turn out for good will get you moving. bottom

I had allowed my life to become so miserable, anything would have been an improvement. This is called hitting bottom. God will allow us to do that. How miserable will we become before we are willing to make a change? This is a horrible place to be. Everything looks dismal and grey.

Let me encourage you today that life is meant to be beautiful! By going through the letting go process one day at a time, one lesson at a time, we chip away at the ugly and let the light shine through. For me, it felt like shedding layers of old skin, until I got down to the new Barb. Once I was new, everything I learned was too. The people that came into my life were people that added good, not chaos.

Stepping into the unknown is an invigorating place to be. If you are at your bottom there’s great news for you! The only way to go is up! Take my hand and let’s go.

 

All I Know

Walking in God’s will. What is God’s will? How do we know? What if I miss it? Guess what? God knows where you live. If you miss it the first time around, He will find you and give you another shot.

GodswillWhen I don’t know what to do, I ask God for His wisdom. He will give it. Sometimes that is the main problem. Me and doing. All we have to do is follow Him and be obedient when He prompts us to do something. Sounds simple doesn’t it? Then why do we make it so hard?

Because we’re human and He gave us free will. Those two things right there are plenty for us to get into trouble! That’s why it’s so important to listen to that still small voice inside you and do what it says. God knows how to grab my attention. If I’m getting ready to step out and do something that is not His will, I will lose my peace immediately.

god_is_goodDo you ever have that uneasy feeling that something is just not right? Stop and sit with that until He reveals it. Just walking one step at a time, one day at a time works best for me. Do the next right thing. It’s that simple. Before doing something ask yourself, “Is this the next right thing?” Do you feel peace after asking? Look for signs and listen to your body.

You are not alone in life. God is ginormous and ours for the asking! Driving home this evening, I needed a sign from Him. I needed to know if I was in His will. Sitting at a stoplight, I noticed a transfer truck turning left and coming slowly toward me. He was going so slow and easy into his lane to my left, that I felt compelled to stop and look at the truck. Up at the top of the cab, the words were written in cursive, “God Is Good.” That’s all I know and that’s all I need to know.

 

Ya Gotsta Move It Move It

This week, I had not planned on getting organized to move. This little farm house has been our ‘Safe Haven’ for almost two years. Last December, I wrote out my goals for 2015. A new house was not on the page, but everything I listed was going to lead us to more. God knows your heart, and He knows when it’s time to move.

Quotes About Moving On 0013-15 2We have to let go of where we are, so God can move us to where He wants us to be. Bailey and I started talking about what our next house would look like. It would be a little bit larger, have a washer and dryer, a bathtub (we have a shower), and a fenced yard for Augustus, Bailey’s Blue Heeler pup. We would still be on acreage, because we love having land. Long gone are the days I look out my window and see another house.

Bailey found an ad for a little house on 5 acres about an hour away. Most every ad we had seen was out of our budget, but this one met our criteria. We drove out to meet the couple who owned it, and take a look. It was a beautiful, old farm house that had been restored to like new condition. The owner had put a lot of himself in that house to bring it up to what it is today.

We stepped through the little wood gate onto the lush, green lawn, and almost bumped our heads on the branch of a giant Oak Tree. (Disco Ball) The next thing I saw was a clothesline. I love hanging sheets outside! That wasn’t on my list, but it must have been on my heart. above

We walked in the back door and entered a large mud room. The man who rebuilt this house is a carpenter by trade, so he had filled this room with custom cabinetry! Underneath the cabinets stood, a washer and dryer. On into the kitchen were more custom cabinets and a sweet pantry. Looking into the main living area was a mass of hand rubbed, hardwood flooring. It didn’t surprise me much when we got to the bathroom and there sat a large tub. I was so overwhelmed with God’s goodness by then, it was like walking through a dream. eggs

God had this ready and waiting for us. Once we started talking about it and became willing, in a blink of the eye, everything fell into place seamlessly. The glory goes to God! We did nothing but ask, but it was already there waiting.

Bailey noticed something about the way the yard was fenced. It had a row from the side of the house to the fence of the yard. She said, “Chicken’s?!” I was stunned. There was a little wooden house already in place that would make the perfect coop. I used to raise chickens and it brought immense joy to my life. There is nothing better than to have a basket of colorful eggs in the kitchen everyday. God knows your heart.