Sharpening My Machete

Patience. I am learning if all I do is wait, everything will work out for the greater good. People get caught up in the ‘doing’ of life. There is a big difference between taking steps forward each day and running through a field with a machete. If you choose the latter of the two. It better be sharp.

option-2a8hEvery now and then, I get to a point in my life where I need to weed. With Spring coming up, it always surprises me that weeds come up first. They will start to show off before the grass and flowers. They are the same color as grass, so driving by you can enjoy the green color. Looking closely you will see their true nature. If not tended to, they will cover the beautiful grass and choke it out.

In Texas we have weeds that are considered flowers. I’m sorry, but there is nothing more pure than an actual flower. The weed tries to imitate, but is weak. An imposter. Go cut a bunch of blooming weeds and put them in a vase of water, and then purchase a small bouquet of flowers and do the same. See which one lasts longer and brings you more joy.

Get out your machete and start whacking some weeds. They have deep roots, so you may haveta dig! Start whacking, pulling, digging or spraying today!  Whatever they are in your life, they will take over and choke out the beauty. Once removed you will immediately see the goodness in bloom!

 

 

Gate Closed

My daughter and I moved into our new home this week. We have a large metal gate at the opening of our driveway. While we were moving all our belongings into the house, the gate was always open. Once we finished, the man who built the house shut the gate. We drove up that night to a closed gate and it was the strangest feeling. Was it trying to keep us out? No. It was protecting what’s inside.

blogReflecting on this Easter Sunday, Christ went through massive suffering so we don’t have to. I stayed in suffering, for many years because I didn’t know any different. It’s a learned behavior. Sometimes life starts out hard and we learn it young. Other times, it’s a gradual ascent over time where we just end up there. However you got there doesn’t matter as much as knowing, you don’t have to stay there.

It’s up to us. Christ died so we could enjoy a beautiful life. The advice our parents drilled into us falls short now. Go to college, learn a skill and work hard the rest of your life doesn’t cut it. Your gift will take you farther than any job will.

I was fearful for about half a minute thinking about this move. The actual moving of items was work, but God had this house just sitting here empty, waiting on us. I don’t know why we’re here, or what’s ahead. My life was good where I was. God always has more in store and I was ready for more bettah.

Today, I am open to receiving all the goodness He has in store. No more fear or living a life of suffering. If you are ready to step out of your past, I’m hosting a Virtual Workshop in 2 weeks. Would love to have you join me! We can drive through that gate together and Let It Go.

Better Is Coming

I believe that God wants me to receive the very best He has for me. My idea of what life should look like is nothing compared to what God has in mind. Isaiah 55:8 says, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. This is comforting to me today.

betterAlmost two years ago, I looked at my life and asked myself, “Is this God’s best?” It was pretty clear it was nobody’s best because it was a life of barely getting by. God doesn’t barely get by. He is all about abundance in every area of our lives. It was time to make a life changing decision.

I didn’t ask anyone’s opinion of what I should do. Praying and letting God know what steps I saw to take, was all I needed. He could have stopped me at anytime. Did my friends think I was crazy for leaving a 25 year marriage? Yes, they did. Did people think I was crazy for leaving the security of my town to move out in the middle of nowhere? Yep.

I grabbed my daughter, and left everything I knew as familiar, and stepped into the unknown. God had it all waiting for me. The house, land, pier to praise and worship on, nobody knew my name, and they still don’t. This house and the time here has been a place of healing for me. To Let Go of the past so I could enjoy the moment.

Today, God is giving me another new beginning. After going through the Letting Go process and being secure in who I am, it is time to move on. My daughter and I sat down last December and talked about our goals and dreams for 2015. We spoke about a nicer house, and named off some things that were missing with this one that we wanted. We still wanted land, but to have a laundry room with a new washer and dryer would be cool. Just little things.

When we came across this house we are moving into, the owner took us in through the back door. We stepped into a large mudroom lined with custom cabinetry. There was an old dryer sitting there by itself, so I was a little puzzled. After walking through the house, we were in love with all the woodwork and sweet character it held. As we were wrapping up our tour, the owner said, “Don’t worry about that old dryer sitting there. I am having a brand new washer and dryer installed in a couple of weeks.” Welcome home.

Fly With Me

Receiving compliments has been a work in progress for me. I hear what people say, but to actually receive, accept and store it inside is a mighty action. We can work and work at something, but sometimes we just need to loosen our grip and it comes together more easily. It’s not about forcing a change. Let It Go and watch the transformation.

airplaneWhen I found the Letting Go project it was exactly what I needed. Starting a new life and leaving everything I knew as normal, had put me in a space of not knowing. It was time to go in search of the real me and see what that looked like. I had no restrictions, so my options were endless.

I received Lesson One via email, and started reading. It spoke about the mind and body and was very interesting how they affected one another. Reading through the Introduction brought me to the actual lesson about Negative Thinking. Being a positive minded person, I reasoned, “This is not going to help me.” Welp….. I was wrong.

starve I was like a ball of clay that needed to climb up on the potter’s wheel and let ‘er rip! I went through one lesson a week, for 10 weeks. Some weeks were hard, but that is where I would receive my biggest growth. By the time it was complete, I knew who I was, what I wanted and loved my life. It made such a dramatic impact on me, I went on to become a Let It Go Coach, so I could help others let go of their old selves and embrace the new.

I’m hosting an Online workshop in 3 weeks. If you are interested, just click here to find out more. It will be open to 10 participants and we’re half full, so connect with me soon. You cannot always wait for the perfect time. Sometimes you must dare to jump.

 

Falling In Love

I love to love. It hasn’t always been that way. When I didn’t feel loved, over a period of time, my heart hardened. Then came the fortress I built around me. God works through people, so when someone told me, “You’re a hard woman,” that got my attention. I didn’t want to be hard, so it was time to make some changes within. Let It Go.

Fall-in-love-love-processAs I sit here this morning, gazing out the window over the pond, I see Stork. He has been here everyday since we decided to move. Bay and I have been moving stuff over to the new house this week. This morning came the prayer, “Father God. If this is not your will. Stop me now!”

We have always called this home our Safe Haven. It will be two years in May that we left everything we knew and landed on these 40 acres. Today, we are following a path of new adventure. New beginnings. It’s terrifying, but at the same time, exhilarating. It feels like, we did good here, and are healed, whole and ready for bigger and better. We’re just following God and the process of packing everything up and moving one foot in front of the other.

Cannon RebelSL1 024Yesterday, as we were unloading our truck and walking everything into the new house, I paused and took note. Everything little thing was pretty, meant something to us, and had a place waiting in the new home. Opposed to the move two years ago, where we were sorting through a house full, trying to find the items we wished to take. We had gotten our lives down to only having things we love and wish to take with us on this new journey. Nothing will be left behind this go round.

Cannon RebelSL1 053I love this house. It’s a bittersweet morning Inbarbsworld. Today, we go pick up a new bed for the new house. Everything is new and we are just following the process. It is falling in place seamlessly like only God can do. We get to fall in love with every little piece of it, until we wake up one morning very soon in our new home. Glory to God.

 

No Worries

Growing up I saw my Mother and Grandmother worry about everything. Most of which, hadn’t even happened yet. I promised myself right then and there…I would not do that when I grow up. Still haven’t grown up, but I don’t worry!

I have not seen where worrying has ever solved a potential crisis. It takes a lot of energy to worry and will eventually effect your mind, body, health and quality of life. Harness that energy and put it toward your dream life. If something scary looking is on the horizon, it will either pass through or go away. Be grateful if it falls apart before it reaches you, and be grateful if it hits you like a storm. Storm’s pass and you will be stronger for standing firmly in it.

GodisupMy friends will tell you, I love to analyze. Getting to the root of everything is what I enjoy. Finding a balance between analyzing and trusting God is a delicate state for me. Over the years, I have learned to just let it go and trust God. He has my best interests at heart, so if I need to go through some stuff, He’s going to be my strong tower.

This builds faith and character. He wants us to trust and depend on Him for every little thing. If He can create the universe, I’m pretty sure he can handle whatever comes my way. It breaks my heart to see a woman’s face with permanent frown lines. It looks like she’s frowning even when she’s not. This tells me she has spent a lot of time worrying for her face to have those lines. A lot more time worrying than smiling for sure.

I would much rather smile. When you smile it makes you feel lighter and cheerful. Smile at someone and they will smile back at you. Smiles are contagious. If you must worry, turn that worry into prayer. Just keep laying it at God’s feet until you receive peace. All we have is today and this present moment. Don’t waste your time worrying about what’s going to happen. Face it when and if it gets here. Do the next right thing and make good choices through it. You will be better and stronger on the other side.

 

 

You Are Here

You gotta love the directory at a large shopping mall. You walk over to look up the store location of your choice, but first it helps to find the spot that says, “You Are Here.” I want one of those for my life.

acceptThis quote is the mantra for my coaching career. I love the simplicity and have to remind myself of it frequently. It’s very simple to read and say, but much more difficult to do. We like being in control but, I can tell you from experience, it’s more productive to Let It Go.

Our body and mind love pleasure. It will gravitate toward pleasure faster than pain. Some think their life should have a certain amount of pain. That they are not supposed to walk in complete happiness. The saying, “No pain, no gain”, should be debunked. That is one of the many things my program does. It looks at those old beliefs and sayings we grew up hearing, and determines if we want to utilize them in our lives today.

To give up control means stepping into the unknown. That can sound like a scary place to be, but it’s not. I have done this so many times in the past two years alone, today I pretty much run toward the unknown. If you have read any of my blogs, you know I have a ginormous God. Learning to walk by faith, that He has a plan for me and my life, makes stepping into the unknown easier. You could do it with a positive mental state as well. To know that everything is going to turn out for good will get you moving. bottom

I had allowed my life to become so miserable, anything would have been an improvement. This is called hitting bottom. God will allow us to do that. How miserable will we become before we are willing to make a change? This is a horrible place to be. Everything looks dismal and grey.

Let me encourage you today that life is meant to be beautiful! By going through the letting go process one day at a time, one lesson at a time, we chip away at the ugly and let the light shine through. For me, it felt like shedding layers of old skin, until I got down to the new Barb. Once I was new, everything I learned was too. The people that came into my life were people that added good, not chaos.

Stepping into the unknown is an invigorating place to be. If you are at your bottom there’s great news for you! The only way to go is up! Take my hand and let’s go.