Just Fall Apart

My life has come so far in a rather short amount of time. Being in the middle of it, makes it difficult to see. My daughter told me, “I don’t think you realize how far you’ve come.” I was having a pity party, but it didn’t last long.

goodBeing a coach is not about giving advice. For me, it’s about listening to someone talk, until they find their own answers. We all know what to do. Being an adult should give you the knowledge of what’s right and wrong. Knowing and doing are two different things. Knowing comes easy but doing is when it gets tough.

Listening to someone talk, and then repeating things they say to you is all it takes. We have the answers, they just get buried underneath the circumstances. Saying them out loud, instead of letting them roll around inside us is healthy. Mama always said, “There’s more room out than there is in”, and that holds true.

When life is falling apart around you, let it fall. We try so hard to hold everything together, but I have found that is only a temporary fix. Pull yourself together and do the next right thing. Start sorting through what is wrong in your life and get to what’s right. What is right for you will be good for others. Go through the debris and find the beauty.

 

biopicBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Let It Go Coach and helping others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is working on her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Doors Slam Quietly

There is a reason and season for everything. Keeping our eyes and ears open will allow us to see, even if we don’t feel ready. When we least expect it God will reveal something that will make us pause and study our path. We are ready.

doorThere are normally signs along the way. It’s easy to miss the small details, but if we take notice, we can watch them accumulate. Choosing to ignore the signs prolongs the inevitable. There is less pain in letting go of something, or someone that is already long gone. Listen to your heart, but take your brain with you.

The way we were raised has a lot to do with our beliefs, especially about ourselves. I have friends that are in miserable marriages because they were raised to fight for the marriage. My parents stayed married until all the kids were out of the house and then they got a divorce. I chose to break that cycle and let go of what was gone.

momentsLife is an ever changing cycle so what I learned as a child isn’t always what’s best for me today. I recall early in my letting go process going through a list of things my mother said and digging for truth. Would I get sick if I went outside with my hair wet? Was sex my duty as a wife? I was able to debunk most of that long list.

I don’t have to believe everything I was taught growing up. Part of the Letting Go process is, laying everything out on a table, picking and choosing what I wanted to keep to move forward in life. If it was true, good and adds value I kept it. The things that were not true and didn’t add to my life were thrown away. Out with the old way and in with the new.  Be true to you and build yourself a new life that is beautiful.

 

 

 

Simply The best

Walking into a shop, I could just barely hear this song coming out of the sound system. Simply the Best, by Tina Turner was playing and those three words were the loudest part of the song. I admire Tina for everything she went through. Such a beautiful and talented lady that knew her worth, even though the tabloids revealed her man did not.

worthYour self worth is invaluable. You need to know it and own it. Don’t allow anyone to tarnish what you believe about yourself. I have allowed people in the past to steal my joy. If I go to bed sad and wake up sad, that should tell me this could be a problem.

We should have standards. Good morals. People will try and get you to meet theirs which sometime means lowering yours. I have found if those people are going to be in my life, they need to come up and meet mine. Otherwise, there is no room in my life.

That may seem harsh, but it’s self care and preservation. Past relationships have beat me up and down to where I had to search diligently to find myself again. God has always brought me through to the other side shinier than before. I am a better woman today because of what I’ve been through, but I’m slowing down on the lessons learned.

Knowing I am worthy of every good thing God has in store is enough. The people He places in my life today may not be the easiest people in the world, but they are worth it. God will use people to challenge you for what He wants changed. Need more patience? He will send someone that requires patience. Need to learn how to wait? Welcome to waiting. Put those two together and you have a new skill called patiently waiting.

Those people want the same thing for you that God does. Simply the best.

sefieBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Let It Go Coach and helping others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, and does one on one Coaching. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

The Big 100

It’s amazing that I’m posting my 100th Blog. What a fabulous year it’s been! This is proof, if you love what you do, it can be done with ease. I love to write and this Blog has taught me how to do so more effectively than before.

openIt started out as a terrifying experience. One of those things you make yourself do afraid. Just writing about everyday life and what God was doing for my daughter and me. We have a beautiful life today and all the glory goes to Him. We have done nothing but walk through every door He’s opened, and laid down every crowbar to the ones He’s closed.

The doors and windows of life are fascinating. Everything in life is all about God’s perfect timing. His timing is never my timing but He’s never late. It gets frustrating at times when I don’t think He’s moving fast enough. I am grateful I don’t get everything I want right now. If something is not happening, then it must not be the right time for it.

This has been a hard lesson for me to learn and is a daily faith walk. Believing God’s got my back and has an awesome plan for my life is all I need to know. Do I want to know more? Of course I do! Right now, I’m just going to be open to whatever comes next.

Thank you for being with me these 100 Blog posts. I hope you will continue to follow this journey into the next 100.

 

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Barbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Let It Go Coach and helping others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, and does one on one Coaching. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

Enjoy The Plan

I love how life flows. Sitting here at my desk, looking out the window, and seeing a beautiful day in store. Texas has had a lot of rain, so the sunshine feels good. The house was perfectly still a moment ago, until Gus, our Blue Heeler,  decided to jump up and start barking at something unseen by me. It can be still and become startling  in an instant.

reasonI saw this post this morning and thought it was just beautiful. I tried to post it full size so you could enjoy every ounce of it’s splendor along with me. That didn’t work too well.

Coffee in hand and bread rising in the oven is the start of a great day. Taking a peep out the front door, I see Gus has lost his spot on the front porch. It is has been taken by Mama cat and her four kittens. They are learning to play together.

Typing these words is what I’m doing now. The house is still once again and so am I.

Being still and enjoying each moment is my sweet spot. I don’t have to have a plan because the day already has one. It was planned out before I woke up, but I get to walk through and enjoy what I see. Noticing the mini Grandfather clock sitting by the door has stopped swinging it’s pendulum, tells me it’s time for a new battery. Make a note.

My desk has a reasonable order to it this morning. My morning devotional sits beside my left arm with my reading glasses resting on top. It was read hours ago at the very start of my day.

To the right is my cell phone, coffee, notes, books and my vaping supplies. Yes, I quit smoking last year and now enjoy vaping. It’s still a habit but I believe it’s healthier and cleaner than cigarettes.

I am surrounded by several of my favorite things on my desk. It is much like my life in general. Surround myself with people and things who will love me, help motivate me, encourage me, inspire me, enhance me and bring happiness to my world. This is as far as I’ve gotten into today. There are things I want to accomplish, like setting up a schedule for my daughter to continue with her home school courses through the summer. That is work and not needed here.

If we stay in the present moment and enjoy the plan before us, it’s not a lot of work. I love the verse that says, “Be still and know that I am God.” Today’s devotional from Jesus Calling by Sara Young said, “Let Go, relax, be still and know that I am God.” I love what He is doing and I love the people He has placed in my life to share the journey.

 

sefieBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Let It Go Coach and wants to help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, and does one on one Coaching. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

Happily Ever After

Time goes by quickly. My daughter is driving with her permit and will have her license before long. She’s looking at cars, has a boyfriend and I just want her to be five again. Maybe it’s time for some of those Sun Stand Still prayers.

I saw this picture and thought it was beautiful. My daughter would love it because deep down, I think that is every girls dream. To live Happily Ever After, just like the princesses in the Disney movies. I want her to know, she can do that but she will need to start out living that way with herself. No one can make you happy, it’s up to you to be happy.

happily ever after

I can be happy all by myself. My life is sweet just going though with God as my guide. It’s when other people come into my world that throws things off balance. God wants us to have a life with people involved, so it’s finding that daily balance of self and self with others. It works best if I can walk in love.

The world pushes the opposite image on us throughout the day. We are not complete without a mate. Kids are having sex and babies at an extremely young age. It saddens me to think what kind of generation we’ll have in a few years. Babies having babies. They are looking to fill a void and the world has told them sex will fix it. I wonder what goes through their minds during childbirth.

Our happily ever after is within us all. We can get real happy with just us and nurture it. Interacting with others throughout the day, can be draining, so be careful who you interact with and for what length of time. I do believe God has the perfect mate for everyone, but we need to stop looking. It doesn’t need to be our primary focus. Love God, love yourself, and love others. Take care of you and let God take care of the rest. You be you and live happily ever after.

biopicBarb is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. She has been an Entrepreneur for 25 years and has run several successful businesses. She gave up that life to write and become a Let It Go Coach. Barb has experience, strength and hope to share, and wants others to enjoy their lives. She hosts Virtual Workshops, that you can enjoy in the comfort of your own home. The sessions last 8 weeks and were instrumental in giving Barb the beautiful life she enjoys today. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com