Cut Them Ties

I love mornings. It’s the start of a new day and is full of possibilities. Sometimes it’s easy to feel the effects of the previous day. A conversation with someone didn’t end right, or a misunderstanding may need resolution. Try not to bring yesterday into today. Look at this day for what it is, a new day and realize that yesterday is in the past.

touchThe past can ruin your day. Choose to stop dragging it around with you. If someone hurt your feelings yesterday, or made you mad, Let It Go and move on. If you are an important part of their life, they will reach out and let you know you are loved. The past doesn’t define us but it will refine us.

Don’t hold a grudge. A grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Try not to let the sun go down on your anger. When I go to bed angry, I always wake up feeling miserable. We’re not responsible for anyone’s words or actions except our own. Be the best you can be, and trust in knowing you are more than enough. Give the rest to God.

Enjoy this beautiful day. If you’re not seeing the beauty, it may be time to clean up your playground. Cut the ties that bind you to negativity and unhealthy relationships. Your life can be beautiful if you choose carefully. Treat yourself with the respect and kindness you deserve. If others cannot then they shouldn’t be there. Let them go.

 

biopicBarb is a writer and enjoys being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. She has been an Entrepreneur for 25 years and has run several successful businesses. She gave up that life to write and become a Let It Go Coach. Barb has experience, strength and hope to share, and wants others to enjoy their lives. She hosts a Virtual Workshop every other month. The sessions last 8 weeks and were instrumental in giving Barb the beautiful life she enjoys today. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

That’s A Lie

I love my Let It Go Facebook page! The opportunity to reach people in real time with encouragement brings me fulfillment! Recently, I noticed a comment about one of my postings, and viewed it as a cry for help. Hence, this Blog.

The comment said, “Thts a LIE.” The first thing I noticed was the woman must have been so distraught, she didn’t go back to fix the typo. This drew my attention to the comment, as it made me wonder why she wouldn’t go back to correct once posted. This picture is what prompted the comment, and I am going to share my experience.

lieWe all have a past. I have not yet met a person that said, “I love my past!” Each day is a new day and we can choose a new path. If we are enjoying the right path we’re on, it will need to be cleared of debris. If you are living your life, it can get messy! The storms will pass or blow over. It’s up to you to watch and wait or, break out the leaf blower to help it move along a bit.

There are symptoms for me when someone is not having a healthy effect. I am normally a happily, fulfilled person, so the red flag is sadness and discontent. If I’m feeling sad, then I am allowing someone or something to steal my joy. You will see the signs. Pay attention to your body language.

If you don’t pay attention, someone else with for you. My daughter used to watch me as I spoke on the phone. After I hung up with this one person in particular, she would point out that I always looked sad while talking with them. Feeling the sadness in my heart reflected in my expression and she saw it more clearly than me. That person is gone.

letting-go-moving-on-past-quotes-Favim.com-1864595Shut the door. The only way it reopens is if we react to someone knocking from the other side. Any response prolongs the inevitable for both involved. When you have an unhealthy relationship, feel free to tell the person why they are no longer invited to your party called life. They may not enjoy this, but that is not your problem. You are responsible for your life, not theirs.

Walk away and don’t look back. There is a reason it’s called the past and a reason it falls behind us. My experience has been, when one doors closes, another door opens and it’s always something better. We have to close some doors to allow room for others to open. When we see what’s behind the door, we decide whether it’s good for us or not. Some doors close quickly and some close slowly. The effectiveness and speed are up to us.

 

biopicBarb is a writer and enjoys being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter, Bailey. She has been an Entrepreneur for 25 years and has ran several successful businesses. She gave up that life to write and become a Let It Go Coach. Barb has experience, strength and hope to share, and wants others to enjoy their lives. She hosts a Virtual Workshop every other month. The sessions last 8 weeks and were instrumental in giving Barb the beautiful life she enjoys today. You may connect with her via email for more info. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

 

Assume Your Positions

Love is a fabulous feeling. I carry a lot of love inside and with me throughout the day. It brings me joy to share it, especially if a friend is having a hard time. I have a fabulous friend I stop by to see once a week just to give her a hug.

loveEveryone loves differently. They feel and display it uniquely in their own way. This can be confusing when you’re in a relationship. I know what my love looks like, but it takes time to see the other persons. Going headstrong into life, patience is a difficult discipline for me to acquire. It can be done, but it’s not very graceful. I have found it to be rather painful.

I will be the first to admit, I am spoiled. The people of my past have stepped out of my way and allowed me to move forward down my path.

Eventually, God will place a person in your life that doesn’t move. They stand strong in the middle of your path and just smile. It’s highly annoying for me and I can have a fit, but that person doesn’t mind. They will allow the fit and wait for it to subside. You see, they have acquired the skill of waiting and are a master at waiting patiently. It’s highly annoying.

The benefits outweigh the negatives. The only negative is on me and my flesh. You will always know this person is waiting on the path. They are not far out of reach and are always there if possible. That is comforting for me in a relationship, just knowing they are there. Just like disciplining a child, they will wait for the fit to be over, put you in a timeout, or even threaten to spank you. At my age, I don’t think about being spanked, but I hear it can be done.

My life may be beautiful, but if God thinks I’m too spoiled, He will fix it. It takes a strong man to stand up to me and not budge. I will wait a long time for that kind of man. One who loves me enough not to give me what I want right now all the time. Nothing worthwhile in my life has ever come easy. I don’t need easy, just possible. In the meantime, I will continue to have my fits and get those out of my system. My love and having that man to love is worth the wait.

 

Let It Go Coach

It can be tough being a coach. People expect you to behave like one. My daughter tells me every now and then, “I think someone wrote a Blog about how you’re acting right now.” Mr. Smith laughs and says, “You need to let it go!” So what happens when I need to have a big ‘ol fit? I wait till everyone leaves… go outside on the porch and have at it!

Let-go-life-amazing-hd-wallpapre-with-quoteThis was the question I started asking myself a while back and continue to do so today. “How would my life be different if I learned to let go of things that have already let go of me?” I was legally married for 25 years. Ten years into it, I had a spiritual awakening and stopped drinking. God completely took the desire away from me. The marriage was okay for another five and then we told ourselves we would stay together for the children. Our parents did the same, but I refused. The children knew we were miserable and here I am. I let go of who had let me go.

I still do this today and by God’s grace I’ve gotten quicker! The letting go process has been huge in helping me let go in all areas of my life. When I wake up filled with peace, I know I’m living a clean and healthy life. If I wake up feeling uneasy, God is trying to show me something I need to change, or warning me before a mild storm. The storms are a lot less intense than they once were. Either they are smaller or I have become stronger and more secure in who I am.

There are days when the handful of people I allow into my personal life, enjoy picking on me. They tell me I need to Let It Go Coach! That’s okay though. I know they love me and I get to fully love them. That is the beauty of Let It Go.

biopicBarb is a writer and Mom to her 15 year old daughter, Bailey. She has been an Entrepreneur for 25 years and has ran several successful businesses. She gave up that life to write and become a Let It Go Coach. Barb has experience, strength and hope to share, and wants others to enjoy their lives. She hosts a Virtual Workshop every other month. The sessions last 8 weeks and were instrumental in giving Barb the beautiful life she enjoys today. You may connect with her via email for more info. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

Get To Work

I love what I get to do today.  All of my work revolves around some type of writing. God gave me a sound mind and a loud mouth, so I get to type these words in hopes of encouraging others. Do what you love and love what you do.

blogIt hasn’t always been this way. It seems to take a while for my mind to catch up with what my heart already knows. Once I learned money and material possessions couldn’t bring me happiness, my life got real simple.

Faith make all things possible. Believe it and receive it peeps. I have a little sign that says, “Faith is seeing light with your heart when your eyes see only darkness ahead.” God gives just enough light for the step I’m on.

There has to be Hope. Faith and Hope go hand in hand. Then there is Love which makes all things beautiful. There is an abundance of beauty in  life and I hope you see it in yours. Life will try to suck us in and it’s easier to get busy trying to make a living rather than living and enjoying life. Don’t overlook the beauty. Have faith in the unseen, hope that it will come to pass, and love your life! It’s much sweeter to ‘get to’ rather than have to.

Passing Lanes

My daughter is learning to drive. She drives me everywhere in our Ford F150 we named Steve. I was pondering a Blog while she was driving and she spit out the words, “Passing Lanes.” I don’t know if that was for me or just what she noticed about the road. Either way, I’m gonna go with it. The one thing I have learned about her is, she’s right.

steve (2)My daughter does what’s right in driving just like the rest of her world. She goes a little over the speed limit, and get’s disturbed if the car in front of her is driving below it. She allows people to fly up on her tail and she doesn’t budge. She is obeying the law, so how they drive is on them.

The other day, she was ready to use the passing lane and warned me ahead of time. Being the first time, I was ready to talk her through and was surprised by what happened next. She moved Steve into the left lane, let off the gas and paused for a moment. The car she was aiming to pass continued steady speed, so we fell behind our goal. I urged her to ‘Kick it in’, and she took off and made a successful pass.

We are hesitant to pass what’s in front of us. These are like stumbling blocks in our path and must be looked at to see if it’s beneficial to our journey. I encourage you today to use your passing lane wisely. Some things are there to try and block us from God’s greater plan, while others could be exactly what we’ve been looking for all along. Be blessed.

Think and Grow Rich

One of my favorite books is by Napoleon Hill, “Think and Grow Rich.” Millions of people have read it and expected to learn the secret of great wealth! Sitting here sipping my coffee, I wonder, “Did they get it?” I am rich and this is how.

thinkSome men tell me I think too much. This is ludicrous because I love to think! Being a writer, my thoughts reveal a potential nugget to share with others. My purpose is to share my experience, strength and hope with others, so they realize they are not alone. I have also been told I talk too much. That is all part of being a writer. We think and we talk. It takes a God given man to love me.

I put this post on my Facebook timeline recently, to remind me of what I already know. My thinking will never be big enough, because my God is bigger. On my best day I can think up some pretty good stuff, but I haveta recall this. My past thinking got me a 16 year sobriety chip in AA. Let’s not do that again.

Today, God has given my daughter and me a beautiful little house on 5 acres. It’s not a mansion, but we learned a long time ago, things don’t bring happiness. Material things have brought work, worry and pain into my life. Having chosen my things carefully the past two years, they now bring me joy. There is nothing in storage. Every single piece is lived with and loved on. I use my things and they no longer use me. You cannot visibly see my wealth.

Is someone trying to take something from you? I can put up with a fair fight, but when it stops being fair, I’m done. God will replace anything taken from me with bigger and better than I could ever imagine. Just like our new home, it doesn’t look the same as I once had. It’s better, but not more than I can handle. Today I am wealthy and it’s nothing I physically did. What I thought I needed I gave up, or it’s sitting in a box. God is not in a box, and today, neither am I.