Rule Breaker

I feel like I have a lot I want to share. It was a matter of stopping long enough to write it out. I am staying home this weekend, so I’ve been going through the house doing things that bring me joy. My daughter left to go visit her Dad, so I started creating beauty.

Even though I always take time for beauty, when she leaves, I kick it up a notch. There are not a lot of rules in our home, but for the next three days there are none! My philosophy is, you should know what is good for you, what is bad for you, and do everything in love. This is how our day began, and let me say how grateful I am for my girl, and our life together.

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We love candles. We don’t buy just any candle though, they have to speak to us. Yesterday, we stood in front of an entire aisle of them at Target. None of them were screaming, ‘Pick me!’ I would rather buy one pretty one, that smells divine, than ten less expensive ones that I won’t enjoy. While I was looking them over, my daughter disappeared from the aisle.

She was on a mission to see if she could find one that smelled good, and was meaningful. This is the one she chose, and I knew she loved it for what it said. #Blessed. It also smelled good. She sat down at the table this morning, took the lid off, and lit a match. She knows we are blessed, so she lit it up. She has learned the little things make up the one big thing.

A Beautiful Life.

Earlier this week, she offered to go to the grocery store, and I happily made the list. She inquires a lot about my childhood, and asks if I had these things as I was growing up. The answer is usually no. I started making these choices when my daughter and I began this life together. I will do without paper towels until I find some that are pretty, and not plain.

img_20170224_111605270Something as simple as real maple syrup. This right here is a thing of beauty for me.

I had maple syrup on the grocery list, and this is what my daughter brought home. Does it cost more than the plastic bottle shaped woman? Sure it does, but not a lot more. Because it is real, it has a lot more flavor, so we use less. We don’t dump it on our food for it to soak it up. We pour it in shallow bowls to enjoy the color, and dip whatever we’re eating in it.

She made French Toast before she left, and I told her I would clean the kitchen. Before I started cleaning, I looked for something to munch on. I was craving some Party Mix. Opening the pantry, I saw I had enough ingredients left from Christmas to make a batch.

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My Mother made this at Christmas, and only Christmas. My daughter would be proud that I made a batch today, just because I could. It felt like I was breaking one of those rules that was instilled in me long ago. I had all the ingredients sitting there, so why not? Do you need to break some rules? Do you have beliefs that no longer fit the life you want today?

We get to choose what we bring into our life, and what brings us the most joy. Do I buy the case of white paper towels at the wholesaler, or do I wait to find a pretty roll, and smile every time I tear one off. I will choose to buy what brings joy, and enjoy using every single sheet. Now I have paper towels, because they were on the list, and my girl knows pretty.

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Barbara is a Writer, a Mom to her 17-year-old daughter, a recent Breast Cancer survivor, and she loves God. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

 

 

Be Engaged

I took a week off from Blogging. I’ve been writing. You just haven’t seen it yet.

When you don’t see me here, I am reading books, other people’s Blogs, and writing my thoughts in a journal. Writing makes me feel more alive. Looking at January, when I challenged myself to write for 30 consecutive days, I felt exhilarated just by writing everyday. I see other Bloggers writing everyday this month, and they are starting to feel the same way.

It hits you about halfway through. This is what brings me joy! So does coffee.

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As you know, my coffee taste has changed this year. The Keurig is in a cabinet, and the coffee pot will be soon. My daughter has me hooked on the beauty of a pour over. So yes, life is too short for bad coffee. If I’m gonna drink it, I am going to savor every single moment of it.

To be engaged in the process, and the drinking of it. We can also look at relationships in much the same way. Are you engaged? Not the marrying kind, but to be ‘greatly interested.’

I am reading a book by Brene` Brown entitled, ‘Daring Greatly.’ It’s about the courage to be vulnerable, and allowing that to transform you and other areas of your life. Vulnerability starts with trust, and we can always hope when we step out with our vulnerable thoughts, or deeds that they will be embraced, and reciprocated. It’s the good stuff of the relationship.

I find it interesting that Brene` sees disengagement as ‘betrayal’. Long before the more obvious betrayal of cheating, or lying, disengagement occurs first. She defines disengagement as, “Not caring, of letting the connection go, of not being willing to devote time and effort to the relationship.” When that happens the more obvious reasons slip in.

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I know you are loving my coffee Memes. Seymour sent me a post yesterday saying the coffee bean should be my birthstone. I couldn’t agree with her more. She constantly makes an effort to be engaged. I have several people in my life that do this, and some have stopped.

The great mystery of disengagement is there is no valid reason for it. We look for reasons, and can convince ourselves of various ones, but disengagement doesn’t always have one. Brene` describes it as being the, ‘Most dangerous form of betrayal in terms of corroding the trust connection.’ So, we don’t lose trust and step away. We step away and then lose trust.

This is one of a few things I have been pondering during my week off from Blogging. I hope this encourages you to be engaged. Be fully interested in what goes in your cup.

 

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Barbara is a Writer, a Mom to her 17-year-old daughter, a recent Breast Cancer survivor, and she loves God. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ohhh VDay

We are back home from Missouri, and we had a wonderful time. It’s noon, and I’m sitting here in my pajamas, and robe. I missed my robe, but it was too bulky to pack, and take.

It has surprised me how many people are born on this day. My daughter’s best friend shares her birthday with Valentine’s Day. These two girls are so different, but have a bond that is worth celebrating. For me, Valentine’s Day is just another day on the calendar.

My hope is that I give love everyday. Each day should be a celebration of love.

My daughter announced this morning that she would love to surprise her friend Abby today with a visit for her birthday. My immediate reaction was, “What’s stopping you?”

Her friend lives 1.5 hours away, so they don’t get to see one another much. She made the comment lastnight, that she gets to see Abby, about as often as she sees her boyfriend.

Something about that is just not right, considering she has to fly to see her boyfriend. I had to choke the Mom in me this morning, when my daughter mentioned her hearts desire of surprising Abby with a visit. She didn’t get any school done while we were away, which I knew would be the case. She has plenty of school to do, but it’s not going anywhere without her.

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Today is a good reason to push that love envelope a little bit more.

I bought this card for my daughter, and yep, it was the bling that drew me to it. She doesn’t expect anything from me on Valentine’s Day, because we love each other everyday. Her friend will be shocked that she drove all the way out there to help make her birthday special. Her schoolwork will wait one more day, but this moment won’t.

She will eventually graduate, but I hope she never graduates grabbing life’s moments.

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Barbara is a Writer, a Mom to her 17-year-old daughter, a recent Breast Cancer survivor, and she loves God. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

Become Connected

I spent time with my daughter this morning. She gets up early, and comes in late, to spend as much of the day as possible with her guy. I have barely seen her, but it’s all good. We live together.

I opened a Snapchat account, and we send snaps to one another throughout the day. The thing I love about Snapchat is, it can capture your facial expression, and even modify it. We send some hilarious pics to one another, and it’s one way to maintain our connection even when she’s not here. Come find me on Snapchat as Letitgocoach, and let’s connect!

Connection is the sweet spot of life. I was reading my devotional a little while ago, and thought of my new friend that I met here on WordPress. She Blogs here, and reads the same devotional, so we have that connection. As I was reading mine, I wondered if she was reading hers. The name of her Blog is what drew me in, and now we are friends. Her most recent Blog is entitled, “It’s Okay“. I wrote one very similar during my 30 Days of Writing.

Technology can be good, if we use it for good. As I was writing this, a notification from Facebook popped up on the screen. It was letting me know that a couple of my friends had birthdays today. I stopped typing, and went in search of something to post of their wall.

It doesn’t take the place of human to human contact, but it helps. I had brunch with my daughter’s boyfriend’s Mother yesterday. We had a wonderful time, sitting in a beautiful restaurant, just getting to know one another. We already have a connection, our kiddos, so it was our time to connect, and we did. Through technology we can remain connected.

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It’s how we choose to view it that matters. I was not excited about making this trip to Missouri, but now I can say, it has been a good experience for me. I’ve enjoyed it.

It’s easy for me to get caught up in my virtual world. When my daughter asked me to take this trip with her, it felt like I was being ripped out of my comfort zone on so many levels.

It was time for me to step out of my world, and really become connected.

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Barbara is a Writer, a Mom to her 17-year-old daughter, a recent Breast Cancer survivor, and she loves God. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

Just Believe

Housekeeping walked into my hotel room this morning, and exclaimed, “It smells so good in here!” I don’t know if it was the candle, or the lotion I had just put on, but either way, it smelled like home.

I keep telling myself, “I don’t have to write about Cancer anymore!”

Then, I go and read something where someone is struggling, and feel led to write. You are as free as you allow yourself to be. Your doctor will never tell you those words you long to hear. I don’t know if it’s a legal issue, or a moral issue, but they cannot say, “You are Cancer Free.” If you have done all that you can do, then it’s time to trust God that you are.

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I was listening to a lady yesterday, and she was referring to some things she wanted to do around her home. Her life is busy right now, which is fine to have that season, but don’t wait. We are not promised tomorrow, so if you are waiting for ‘one day’, that day is today.

I value my time more now, and will change my plans in a heartbeat. It’s about having peace in your bones. If I start doing something, or am getting ready to go somewhere, and I lose my peace…it’s time to be still. I changed my evening plans to work on my book, which I believe God wants me to do while I’m here. It’s peaceful, and I am filled with peace.

Just believe. When there is no one that will validate, just believe you are Cancer free.

Barbara is a Writer, a Mom to her 17-year-old daughter, a recent Breast Cancer survivor, and she loves God. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

Finding Favor

We are in Missouri! God’s favor is all over this trip. I have a fireplace in my room, and Starbuck’s is right across the street. It’s cold, but nothing like Texas cold. I’m grateful.

The first thing on the Agenda today, was a haircut. I literally woke up with more hair than desired. The rental car is a Jeep Cherokee, so you know my daughter and I had a squealing Gilmore Girls moment over that! I hopped in and drove across the street to a shopping center, and after circling around the building, there was a salon named, “Bliss”. Perfect.

They could probably tell I was from Texas. I walked in wearing a white t-shirt, jeans, boots, and a jean jacket. If they couldn’t tell by looking at me, they knew as soon as I opened my mouth! This young girl offered to cut my hair, and I told her what I wanted. “Leave the top, and shave the sides and back. I’m going for the James Charles look, without the makeup.”

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Mugshot looking photo of James Charles.

She didn’t know James Charles, so I had to show her a picture. If you don’t know who he is, James is Cover Girl’s first “Cover Boy!” Not only is he beautiful, he has massively good hair.

The hairstylist met me at the counter with a bag filled with goodies. It was her way of saying thank you, and it was very sweet. Below the counter were some candles for sale, and not just any candle. One of my faves, Woodwick. I was sitting in my hotel room lastnight missing my candles. They give a feeling of warmth, and they make your space smell great.

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It was like she knew my heart, and put my favorite color tissue in the bag. Red and gold.

God knows my heart, and this is a picture of complete happiness for this girl.

Yes, I got stranded at Starbucks for a while. Where I chose to park, was where the trucks like to unload, so I was blocked in. That’s okay, because I am in ‘No Rush’ mode today.

I went into Starbucks, and placed my order. As I was waiting, I saw some mugs they had on clearance. Like, I need one more mug, but this was not a need. It was a longtime want.

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I saw this mug at Christmas, and wanted it then, but it was full price. Today, it was the only one sitting there like it, and it was half price. Come to Mama! I see it as God’s favor.

The title of this Blog came to me as I arrived back at the hotel. I came into my room, turned on the fireplace, lit my new candle, and started a cup of tea. Picking up my daily devotional, this is what today’s word said. It reminded me of how every moment has been covered in His favor. From the flight, to the rental car, to the hotel, and especially today.

“Trust Me Enough to spend ample time with Me, pushing back the demands of the day. Refuse to feel guilty about something that is so pleasing to Me, the King of the universe. Because I am omnipotent, I am able to bend time and events in your favor. Also, as you align yourself with My perspective, you can sort out what is important, and what is not.” (Excerpt from Jesus Calling page 43)

I hope you are seeing God’s favor in your life. No coincidence, just finding favor.

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Barbara is a Writer, a Mom to her 17-year-old daughter, a recent Breast Cancer survivor, and she loves God. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

To Travel

Ever since my daughter has taught me to make a cup of coffee, using the pour over method, it has become a meaningful part of my day. I get so memorized by the pouring part, I have overflowed my cup, and catch myself drinking more coffee. I purchased my favorite ground coffee off eBay, to start using my coffee maker again, but the seller sent me whole bean instead of ground. Owell, just gonna haveta do an entire can of pour overs!

We are flying to Missouri tomorrow. That is where my daughter’s boyfriend lives. He came here at Christmas, so it’s her turn to go there. I was suckered into this trip, but I’m coming around, and am almost excited about it. I don’t have good memories of traveling during my marriage to her father. It was always stressful, but it doesn’t have to be that way now.go2

I told myself from the very beginning, I would do this for my daughter. That made it easier to accept because I would do anything for her. As time rolled by, I would ponder the trip, and pull positives from it. I’m going to think of it as a mini getaway, a change of scenery, or my first plane trip since my Cancer journey. She will be with her boyfriend most of the time, so I will have a lot of me time. I’m going to work on my book that I started before Cancer.

We are packing today, and it’s very quiet as we do so. I hope she feels my light heart from across the hall. As Mother’s part of our job is to take stress away from our child’s life. That has been my mission anyways. She continually takes the stress out of mine. Even to travel.

 

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Barbara is a Writer, a Mom to her 17-year-old daughter, a recent Breast Cancer survivor, and she loves God. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com