Tag: #changeyourlife

Knowing and Believing

“You have the power to guide your life in the direction you want.” You have heard this before, but do you believe it?

Knowing and believing are different things, but they work together. They can work for, or against each other.

Do you know what you believe? This is not what you think. That is another topic. What you know to be true because you have seen it with your own eyes. Not what you’ve heard.

All I wanted was a beautiful life. That was all.

I didn’t make this life happen. I didn’t run out and get two jobs to provide for my daughter and me. My daughter needed me home, and I wanted to enjoy this life with her, so I kept a part time job working from home. We have not had a need that hasn’t been met, otherwise we didn’t need it.

What you know is what you’ve believed up to this moment.

To Be True

Life is beautiful, and we are taking time to cultivate it.

I saw the gradual movement of change.

My daughter painted her room, and I fell in love with the feel. Walking into my own room, it didn’t give me that feel. Looking at paint colors, then testing samples, and voila! My room has that feel with completely different colors. We know what feels good, and both rooms do, but on different levels.

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I chose the true red over faded red, to remind myself to be true. The happiness sign hung over my bed, but I moved it to the opposite wall. When I wake up, I lay there for a moment, and ponder it’s meaning for the day. Each day holds different levels of happiness.

I don’t have to jump out of bed anymore, and embrace the day. It’s best for me to travel through the day, and acknowledge uncertainty. People are walking in and out of my life, and I am letting them. Melody Beattie was referring to being in the middle of God’s will. We love God’s will, “but not usually while it’s working itself out.” This is true.

The place we pray to be in, is uncomfortable to sit in.

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My daughter sent me that Meme. My feelings change from day to day, but God doesn’t change, and I know that to be true.

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Quitting My Circumstances

My daughter spent most of the day in her room. She hasn’t done that in years, or not since we moved out on our own. She walked out of her room and asked, “So, when are you going to quit this job?” Her Mother was unrecognizable, sitting in a vat of misery. So, that’s what I did.

Since taking this job, which began as helping someone out of a tight spot, I have noticed a few things about myself that I didn’t like. I have been a Virtual Assistant by trade, but this job escalated way beyond that. I won’t bore you with all the details, but let’s just say I was under micromanagement. I can do my job, but the person who hires me has to let me.

The last email of many I received today caught my eye. He had listed all my responsibilities, and wanted to ensure this was a pleasant experience for both of us. I had agreed to answer the phone, return voicemail, and schedule appointments. Very basic. This list was not basic, so I hit reply, and told him he needed a full time assistant. He needed someone else.

Then I told him, “This is not pleasant.”

My world got very quiet after that reply was sent. It was so good to hear the silence.

I walked across the room to my personal laptop and pulled up my Letitgocoach Facebook page. While I had been sitting in a daze, God had been on Facebook. I had 99+ notifications in a two hour time span. I clicked on them, and to my surprise, this one lady had liked and shared over 50 of my posts. I pulled up her page, just to see if what was happening was real.

It was like God was saying…”See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” Isaiah 43:19. Taking this job was not a new thing. It was old because I have gone down this road before. The only thing that has changed from the last time I helped, is me.

Fill the Holes

Walking through the house this morning, it had a different feel and smell. We purchased a Christmas tree last night, and it was standing in the corner filling the room with its presence. It’s not decorated yet, but it’s hard not to notice it. God’s presence is the same as that tree.

It’s amazing how much my life has changed in one year. The most obvious is living in a different house than before, but change is not always obvious. For me change is a lot of small decisions followed by some type of action. It’s like doing the ‘next right thing’ continuously.

When I left my 25 year marriage, a lot of stuff stayed behind. My ex is moving and had everything he didn’t want to take piled up inside the garage. He told me I could go through and take what I wanted. I stood there and looked at all that stuff we collected over the years and smiled.

It was interesting to see what he found worthy of the new house and what he left behind. He will store most of it because of their worth, but I thought I had to have my red clock. It resembles a giant pocket watch hanging from a chain attached to a wrought iron arm.

Spent most of my morning trying to find a good spot to hang this clock from my past. What was I thinking?

I tried two locations, and neither of them worked.

The first place I tried revealed rather quickly that it wouldn’t take the weight of it, so I stopped before messing up the wall too badly. The second try produced a forced hanging of stabilizing the hole with an anchor before inserting the screw. I was determined to hang this clock! It hung, and I didn’t like it.

Walking around looking at it from different angles, and trying to make it fit in my life.

I took it down. Now there are two large holes in the wall. They can be filled and touched up with paint. I’d rather have two holes than something hanging around that doesn’t fit or bring me joy. I will find someone to give it to this season.

When there is change, sometimes it can leave what feels like holes inside us. God can and will fill the holes.

What Am I

I am a private person. A private person with a passion for helping others. That doesn’t make much sense, but today God yanked me out of my box. I sat here taking the simplest of steps and watching as God does what only He can do.

blogI am a child of the one true King. He leads and guides my steps as long as I let Him. It’s easy to step in the way and try to run the show myself, but that normally doesn’t end well! Today, He grabbed me and started running. It was all I could do to keep up and it was mind blowing!

Two years ago I went through a process of shedding the old me and welcoming the new. Sorting through my past and keeping only what was beneficial. Afterwards, I was offered the opportunity to become a Coach of Letting Go. That was two years ago and we’re just now getting started.

The process took time and getting certified did too. A year ago I created this Blog spot and named it Letitgocoach. Finding the name started by using the words Let It Go, but none of those were available so I mashed it all together with Coach and it took. I had become a Letitgocoach by name.blog1

Then came the Facebook page. A year ago again, I created a community for people to be encouraged. It has grown over time and is just starting to really get noticed. Someone from that page contacted me. He asked me what prompted me to start it, so I told him, ‘God did. I’m an encourager and I’m a Coach.’ He had no clue by looking at the page that I am a Coach.

I went into the settings of the page and pulled the three words together that said, ‘Let It Go’. and added ‘Coach’. I changed the category from ‘Community’ to ‘Coach’. When I clicked ‘save changes’, it reloaded and my page transformed into saying ‘Letitgocoach‘, and that I am a ‘Coach’.

It changed right before my eyes. There are other Coaches out there that do similar work as me, but only one Letitgocoach. When we step into God’s will, He will show us what we need to become everything He has planned. I guess He saved that one word for me.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Let It Go Coach and helping others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is working on her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com