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We have in our minds what the perfect relationship should be. I know I had a list, do you? There are certain qualities I think we should look for but we should probably burn the list. Have my ideas brought me success in the past? Nope.
I was talking to a lady yesterday that wants a long term relationship. She obviously has a list of what that should look like because she keeps trying. She is divorced, like me, so how did that list work in the past? Let see if we can get this.
God places people in our lives for a reason. Divine intervention is what I see. Are they all relationships? Yes, but on all different levels. Some will be long term and some short term if we allow them to evolve naturally.
It’s what we choose to learn from the relationship that makes it healthy or not so much. Seeing it for what it is and nothing more. To go with it.
Toward the end of my marriage, we stopped communicating. It wasn’t worth it because it always ended in the same fight. He would bring up behaviors from the past, and I believe that can be blinding. If you are so focused on the past, you cannot see the person standing before you.
I’m not the same person I was yesterday, so how can I be the one from years ago?
Communication was at the top of my list for future relationships. That is what I was looking for. If someone was a talker I was happy, but here is what I learned. They can talk but not listen. Do you have relationships like that?
It makes sense to me now that the one person who wants to talk through everything is the quietest person I know.
Barbara is a writer, Entrepreneur and a Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and will only eat cake with real buttercream icing. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name given. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com