Fill Yourself Up

I’ve been a Virtual Assistant for a friend in California for 5 years. I take care of one of his businesses online every weekend. It’s not a hard job, but I do it because I value him as a friend. I’ve known him for 20 years, and this job allows me to stay home with my daughter, and earn income. He was my mentor years ago, and taught me phone skills.

The job I do for him doesn’t require phone skills. It’s all online. This new job is because of my phone skills, which haven’t been used in 10 years. It’s fun dusting them off.

Everything we do, if we do it long enough, gives us a skill.

I mentioned in yesterday’s Blog post finding the unopened motivational CD in my briefcase. It has since been opened, and listened to, and I’m listening to one as I type. If you’re young, we listened to inspirational CD’s before podcasts.

You see, if you are a leader, you have to feed yourself.

My daughter mentioned she doesn’t have a lot of friends who encourage her, but they look to her for encouragement. She is learning about being a leader. I told her about the CD’s, and said, “Encouragement is widely available, but sometimes you need to go find it.”

Read a book, listen to a podcast, or just tell one of your peeps, you need some love! People don’t think the leader needs encouragement, but we do. We don’t expect it, and we’re not the best at receiving compliments, but the encourager can run low on encouragement. If you feel like you’re running on empty, take time to go fill yourself up.

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Change In Season

I’ve written quite a bit about this Breast Cancer Journey I’m on. Talking to a dear friend earlier, it made me realize I haven’t really summed up the changes in writing. It’s easy for me to forget all the small things I went through. My journey has been relatively easy compared to others, but maybe that is so I can encourage them, and continue writing.

All of the hair completely fell off my body. The hair on my head was messy, but the rest went without a sound. I was looking at my arm one day, noticing the longish hairs thinning out. The next time I looked, it was gone, and replaced with a layer of fuzz. The same with my legs. The sun came through my bedroom window one morning and revealed a layer of peach fuzz. It almost seems cruel to shave them because they fought so hard to get here.

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It’s easy for me to look at this now, and see how God has gone before me. I had no idea what to expect, but He knew, and He has been with me every step of the way. Thank you Jesus.

The doctor told me, this last round of Chemo would show me extreme fatigue. I thought I knew what tired was, because my body was very tired. No…extreme fatigue is something completely different. I will be doing something, or planning to do something, and my body just marches off to the bedroom and lays down. Sometimes I sleep, and sometimes I lay.

I lay differently now. Where I used to curl up under the covers, I now lay on top with my favorite throw. During the night, I get hot, and then cold, so it easier with a throw instead of sheets and blankets. Pillows are thrown all over the bed, so I have many positions to choose from. The body will heal itself if we only be still and let it do what it was made to do.

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I cannot drink coffee anymore. Anyone who knows me, knows this is huge. It tastes awful, and makes my body feel bad. I don’t get hungry, and feel no hunger pains. After losing almost 20 pounds, I learned I had to make myself eat regardless of my body being quiet.

It’s like my body only wants good things. Oh, I’ve eaten cookies, and cake for quick calories, but my body is not happy afterwards. Just like we are coming into the new fall season, God is making me new. Everything that I thought was so important before Chemo, is really not important at all. God has scraped my plate clean, and is preparing me for new.

Psalm 46:10 says, “Be still and know that I am God.” I have carried that verse with me this entire journey. That has been my daily lesson. I haven’t really done anything in this journey to help it along. I don’t have an agenda anymore, but somehow everything gets done. All I needed was to surrender myself to Him, and trust Him completely. He has caught me every time I fell across my bed, as a reminder to rest my body, so I will be strong enough to fly.

 

 

Why We Quit

It’s been a long week, full of the unexpected. Everything that happened was out of my control. I must be learning my lessons well friends, because they made me better for it.

Pausing and reflecting upon what’s in front of me. That’s where I am. Not reacting; only a response when needed. I’m an Encourager. That’s what I do. Yes, I have a part-time job, and I’m a Mother to my 16 year old daughter, but my gifts are Encouragement/Hospitality, and Teacher/Preacher. This week, I finally admitted how tired I really am. That was painful.

That is why we quit. We get tired.

It’s very simple really, but it’s been difficult for me to embrace. Have felt it coming on for some time now, but chose to hit the ignore button continuously until it broke. I saw an encouraging post from a friend early this morning, and clicked the ‘Like’ button. She replied with, “Always the Encourager. Thank you!” I sat at my desk and wept for a moment.

I was tired.

Today has been ‘take care of me’ day. Not doing anything special really, just moving at a slower pace. Listening to what my heart and body are telling me. Stopping by Starbucks on the way from dropping my daughter off with her Dad, and getting a really good cup of coffee. Bringing some recommended k-cups home to start my day off right tomorrow.

I was starting to notice how being tired was effecting my quality of life and creativity. I was moving at a fast pace and doing things in a hurry. I had stopped cleaning up behind myself in the kitchen and it was a wreck. I went from making my own Memes once a day, to once a week, and then once a month. After I dropped my daughter off, I stopped and got very still.

My phone buzzed, and it was a lady from my Letitgocoach Facebook page. She is ready to make changes in her life and has asked for my help. I have a beautiful life! Has it always been this way? No! Can I help others have what I have? Yes. It took time and patience, but I get to enjoy this life and I want others to have it too. That is my mission, and my passion.

Today, I’ve spent time tapping into my creativity. Tapping into my desire to touch people and let them know they are beautiful. Learning new ways to put something in front of them that resonates with them and where they are. A beautiful life is right in front of us, it’s just a matter of removing the clutter from our minds, and opening our hearts and souls to see.

One of my favorite verses is Luke 6:38:

38 Give, and it will be given to you. They will pour into your lap a good measure—pressed down, shaken together, and running over [with no space left for more]. For with the standard of measurement you use [when you do good to others], it will be measured to you in return.” Luke 6:38 Amplified Bible.

So, sitting here writing at 10:30 at night, with all these wonderful ideas to implement tomorrow must mean….I’m not tired anymore. I still might sleep in because tomorrow I’m still taking care of me, so I can better care for you. Have a beautiful evening Beautiful Souls.

Barbara is a writer, Entrepreneur and Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and has a pretty healthy obsession for chocolate. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was what stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

 

This Ain’t Easy

If you had $20 to your name, how would you spend it? Years ago, I would spend that money on diapers. Today, I would spend $13 on my favorite candle, and the rest would be a toss up between a Pumpkin Spice Latte, or actual food.

Does that sound silly? I try to be a good steward of everything God gives me, including money. I think He knows, there are a lot of small things I would rather buy before food. It’s just not that important to me. A home that smells like fall from an amazing candle? The moment of savoring my favorite fall coffee drink? Those are important to me.

faithIt’s not easy living in the calling God gives you. God put a desire in me to write and that is what I do. Is it perfect grammar? I’m from Texas, it ain’t gonna be perfect.

I know one of my God given gifts is an Encourager. God prompted me once my legal separation began to start writing publicly. I have always kept a journal, but He wanted to show people my life. Walking through alcoholism and a divorce wasn’t easy, but it was possible. That is all my daughter and I need. Possible.

It is all thanks to God. He gets all the glory for it and that is what I’m here to share.

I’ve had the life of get up, take kids to school, go to work, pick kids up, eat dinner, go to bed and start all over. When it was time for my son to attend high school, the thought horrified me. He was such a good kid, I was afraid he would be eaten alive, so I homeschooled him. Then my daughters school closed down after her 3rd grade year, and I chose to homeschool her. That was the beginning of quality of life for us.sky

When she was younger, I would take her to work with me. As she got older, employers started to frown upon that, so God opened a door for me to work from home. When she turned 13, the beginning of her teenage years, I worked virtually for a friend of mine in California and still do, part time. It was less hours and less money, but the rewards!

That was when I found it to be true that we can make better choices and have a better life. My daughter took this picture of the sky behind our house. She goes outside almost everyday between 6 and 7 pm. The time she goes out depends on the colors reflecting in the house from outside. It’s the beauty factor that gets her attention.

This morning, I was going through a file I have for her in my email. In it was an email she sent a year ago, wishing me a Happy Birthday. The words that jumped off the page this morning were, “I want to be like you when I grow up.” This humbled me as gratitude just spilled out for this beautiful life God has given us. Once again, this must be God.
 

Back To Basics

God has given my daughter and me a beautiful life. This Blog is that journey of the lessons learned and divine intervention along the way. I sit here this evening with a heart full of love and gratitude for you reading my Blog.

Cannon RebelSL1 006 edit (500x490)I’m an ordinary woman, living an extraordinary life.  Why? Because almost 17 years ago, my alcoholism was killing me and destroying what looked to be a beautiful life. The fancy cars, house on the hill, jewelry, designer clothes and one dinner party after another. The status quo.

The morning of November 10th, I handed my wine glass to God, half full at the time, and have not desired another drink since.

This picture is my life today. My daughter and I recently moved into this quaint little farm house and we’re sharing this new beginning, again.

He started our monumental new beginning 2 years ago and you can read about it throughout this site. If you want to see how pretty life can be, take a look at my Facebook page. All the pretty pictures are there. I’m not independently wealthy, but I have a God that has given me a life more beautiful than any amount of money can buy.

I am starting a little series of Blogs this week and invite you to join in. They will be listed under the category of “Quality of Life” and  “Stealing My Joy.” I love to show people they can have quality of life without quantity. God showed me a long time ago how much joy I received taking care of all my stuff. I had a lot of stuff but no joy.

Today, I want to reach as many people as possible and encourage them through their life. What I write about is whatever God puts on my heart to share. Right now, He is showing me I need to clean house and get back to the basics of living. It’s going to be a great adventure to live it and an honor to write it. Feel free to join in and share.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Let It Go Coach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is working on her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

What Am I

I am a private person. A private person with a passion for helping others. That doesn’t make much sense, but today God yanked me out of my box. I sat here taking the simplest of steps and watching as God does what only He can do.

blogI am a child of the one true King. He leads and guides my steps as long as I let Him. It’s easy to step in the way and try to run the show myself, but that normally doesn’t end well! Today, He grabbed me and started running. It was all I could do to keep up and it was mind blowing!

Two years ago I went through a process of shedding the old me and welcoming the new. Sorting through my past and keeping only what was beneficial. Afterwards, I was offered the opportunity to become a Coach of Letting Go. That was two years ago and we’re just now getting started.

The process took time and getting certified did too. A year ago I created this Blog spot and named it Letitgocoach. Finding the name started by using the words Let It Go, but none of those were available so I mashed it all together with Coach and it took. I had become a Letitgocoach by name.blog1

Then came the Facebook page. A year ago again, I created a community for people to be encouraged. It has grown over time and is just starting to really get noticed. Someone from that page contacted me. He asked me what prompted me to start it, so I told him, ‘God did. I’m an encourager and I’m a Coach.’ He had no clue by looking at the page that I am a Coach.

I went into the settings of the page and pulled the three words together that said, ‘Let It Go’. and added ‘Coach’. I changed the category from ‘Community’ to ‘Coach’. When I clicked ‘save changes’, it reloaded and my page transformed into saying ‘Letitgocoach‘, and that I am a ‘Coach’.

It changed right before my eyes. There are other Coaches out there that do similar work as me, but only one Letitgocoach. When we step into God’s will, He will show us what we need to become everything He has planned. I guess He saved that one word for me.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Let It Go Coach and helping others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is working on her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com