It Took Years

I started pondering my front yard after Christmas. Taking the Christmas wreath off the front door, I wondered about having a year round wreath.

Everything is so pretty on Etsy.

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Brickhouse Design Co. made this.

My daughter and I have a french theme sprinkled through the house. The front door is the entryway to our home, and that french theme, so it makes sense.

That door is where this all began.

Today, I’ve been playing in the yard.

This journey with this front yard began with, A Simpler Life. An update to that post is, I found the perfect bird-feeder. It didn’t take much time.

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Vintage Scrolled Birdfeeder.

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About two years ago, I grew Boston Ferns on our front porch per my daughter’s request. That was the first time I had messed with plants in years, beside growing some Canna lilies while living on 40 acres.

You see, my ex husband and I owned a landscape company during the most trying part of our marriage. We designed, planted and built outdoor living spaces in people’s backyards. We installed some magnificent yards, but he practiced on ours.

Toward the end of our marriage we no longer spoke to one another. The yard was his safe haven and he created such beautiful yards, but the well manicured yard left a sore spot in my heart.

When we moved into this house, I completely ignored the yard and let it go. It was an interesting experiment to see what would happen. I’m pretty sure UPS was scared to walk through the yard to the front porch to leave a package. It was a jungle.

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But remember darling…2019 is the year to bloom!

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Vintage Flower Cart

A friend had this lovely flower cart for sale.

It adds to the french theme don’t you think?

Time has passed and my yard heart has healed. I look forward to planning and planting again. A yard that will bring joy to people as they stroll by.

It will look quite different from last year and they will see this transformation after only one year.

You know the whole story my darlings.

For me to love a yard again. It took years.

Change Your Life

You have the power to change your life. God doesn’t want us to have a mediocre life. Do we serve a mediocre God? Our lives should reflect His goodness and plan for us. Every word that falls out of our mouths serves as a compass.

its-a-new-day-live-it-debbie-deePay attention to your thoughts and words. I have seen it continuously in my life where words became reality. When my ex husband told me. “We are going to have a marriage just like our parents did,” something inside me rose up and said, “Not gonna happen.” I saw our lives flash before my eyes where we would spend ten more years together only to walk away complete strangers. Feeling older than our age from these years.

When I refused to settle for that life, a space opened for God to move. He had everything lined up, I just had to look. The right house and location, everything fell into place without much effort from me. It was there waiting for me to become willing to step out and trust. My life is completely different today and is still changing.

pathEveryday my life is new. Each day is different because I am willing to follow God and continue to change. Yesterday, on my drive, I was listening to Joel Osteen. After listening to a couple of teaching CD’s, there was one more calling my name. Pushing the buttons on the CD player, prompting it to queue and load, it gave me an error message.

I tried some more buttons and continued getting error messages with every button pressed. I spoke outloud rather loudly, “All I want, right now, is for this CD player to work,” determined to listen to the last CD. Suddenly, the screen read, ‘Load’, queued up and began working perfectly.

The teaching was about the power of words, which is what I’m sharing today. When we speak outloud, the words gain power in your life. God heard my cry, He knew my heart, so boom, the CD player started working. Power is in positive and negative, so it depends on what you say. If your life is a mess, clean up your mouth and your life will follow. Everyday, speak outloud the life you want to have, so God can hear and begin lining things up to give it to you.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

What She Sees

My parents were not the ideal married couple, but they were good parents.  I don’t recall seeing them kiss passionately or hold one another in a timeless hug. It was a duty for them and after we were all grown, they divorced. At 50 years old, my mother was free to be herself. She did just that and never remarried. I want more for my girl.

I read an article this morning about a 50 year marriage. The author wrote about her parents and the lessons she learned watching their love. Reading the article made me realize, that is all they did. They expressed their love to one another for a lifetime. When the man was asked to go out after work, he replied, “Why should I do that when I have everything I need at home?” How simply honest is that? You can click here, to read the article in it’s entirety.

heartI chose to break the cycle of my parents marriage. My ex husband and myself had grown up watching similar marriages by our parents, and the day he told me, “We are going to be our parents,” was the day I said, “Nope.” Hearing those words started a change in me that changed my life.

My daughter was 12 when I started praying for God to open a door. I refused for her to go through her teenage years seeing a broken marriage. My ex and I never showed any type of affection toward one another. We avoided being in the same room and the same bed. It was not a marriage.

God’s timing is always good. It took time and patience, but a door was opened for me to leave and take her with me. She just turned 16 this month and is becoming grounded in herself. She knows one day she will be able to share the love she has inside with the right person. Right now she is good with loving God and herself and becoming more of who God wants her to be. She won’t settle for just any kind of love.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a LetItgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is working on her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com