When someone hurts you, it hurts. It’s a lot like an actual wound where you get cut, it bleeds, you stop the bleeding and give it time to heal. If you don’t take care of it, it can become infected, or not heal properly. It takes time to heal.
When people hurt me, I try not to take it personally. It’s something they are going through and I just got it the way. If they hurt me continuously and I don’t remove myself from the situation, it’s like picking the scab off the original wound. It doesn’t have time to heal, and the pain starts again.
Feeling the pain of being hurt, you must take time for yourself to let it heal. Some people hold onto the pain and let it fester into bitterness and resentment. This is a devastating way to live your life. Every time you are reminded of the person who hurt you, the scab comes off and you bleed.
Go through the healing process and allow yourself time to realize you are going to be okay. Once the wound is completely healed, you’ll be better than okay. Every good cry, washes away the pain and makes me better than before. Get to the other side of pain and become stronger for it.
There is beauty on the other side of pain.
Everyone heals at a different pace, but it shouldn’t take a lot of time. A broken bone takes roughly 6 to 8 weeks to heal, but your heart may take more or less time. It depends on how deep the cut. If you can forgive the person who caused you pain, step away and take time for the wound to heal. Time and God can heal a broken heart. With God, just make sure you give Him all the pieces.
As I picked up the K Cup to pop into the Keurig this morning, I looked at the name and it said, ‘One Love’. Yep…Bob Marley does coffee.
1 Corinthians 13:4-6 describes it best. To receive it and believe are simple enough, but to live it is a little more challenging for us mere mortals. I recently met a couple that emanate this kind of love. The kind of love only God can manifest between two. One love.
Patient and kind coupled together is always fun for me. It’s quicker and easier to be anxious and mean, especially to the one dearest to us. This is where I appreciate the part, ‘it keeps no record of wrongdoing’, because my list can be extensive.
That was one of the first things I had to let go of was my record of wrongs. Giving myself permission to let go of all the pain in my heart allowed God to create in me a clean heart. Have you ever walked into a closet that was so full you could barely move? That’s probably how God feels when asked to work on our hearts. He needs room to move. Let it go.
To forgive and forget. Forgiveness is free but to forget as well? By letting go you learn to think of that hurt as a lesson learned and move on. It may still pinch you from time to time, but by letting go of the pain associated with the experience, it becomes a valuable lesson. One you hopefully won’t make again in the near future.
To trust. If God places someone in your path to love, trust Him. God doesn’t make mistakes, and maybe you’re thinking, ‘but I do’. Read the verse in its entirety. It’s okay to make mistakes, and if you have the right one to love, they will keep no record of wrongs.
Love always perseveres. This is not to be confused with breaking up and getting back together over and over again. One love stands strong in adversity. While one of you is weak the other is strong. To have one love, one of you must stand firm on these promises when the other one can’t. God made it that way and it works. It all begins by letting go.