That’s what my sponsor would say. When I felt alone, or decided to have a pity party, she would encourage me to look outside myself.

To find a need and fill it.

Not my own need, but the needs of others. I don’t have any ‘needs’ today.

The first line in one of my favorite books, ‘The Purpose Driven Life’ says, “It’s not about you.” I’m continually reminding myself of that.

Yes, there has been a pattern to my life. In a society focused on self-care, we tend to focus on ourselves a little too much. ‘Take care of yourself first, so you can care for others’, but I don’t believe self-care was meant to turn into self absorption.

I’m glad I had a sponsor who would tell me to get over myself. Anytime I feel that tilt in the scales of, ‘What about me?’, I hear her voice. To live a life on purpose means living outside of ourselves and it’s not always convenient. I’m just now learning that.

My weekend’s have been spent taking care of me to better prepare for the workweek ahead. Pondering the possibilities of the weekend, I hear that sponsor say, get over yourself.