Smells Like Love

My daughter left yesterday to spend the weekend with her Dad. This morning, sitting where we usually sit together, I had an odd thought. “I’m gonna miss hearing, “I love you.”

I had an appointment to get to, but when it was over I Googled the nearest location of Bath and Body Works. When my daughter gets home Monday, I want her to know I was thinking of her. A couple of weeks ago, she walked into my bedroom and said, “Wow! It smells so good in here!” It was a new Wallflower of one of my favorite scents, but I unplugged it and put it in her room. It is now empty.

I’m really big on smell. It’s important, and it seems to be a large part of who I am. From giving people a hug, to someone walking into my home, it brings me joy to hear, “Wow! You smell good!”, or “It smells so good in here!”

It’s a combination of things. Our lotion is made by a woman locally, and smells amazing. Every now and then we wash our clothes in Tyler Wash, and that’s like washing them in perfume. It takes time for this to happen, but it’s pure magic when a room envelops a fragrance, and it fits that room. That is what happened when I gave my daughter the wallflower. It was my favorite scent, but became hers.

You want to stand in her room and inhale deeply.

Standing in front of the display of Wallflowers, it took a while to find the right one. Scanning the display for the name of the fragrance, my gaze froze when it landed on this. A candle was sitting to the left of the display, and I picked it up to purchase without even smelling it first!

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Photo cred. B&BW.

Now, I can walk by the candle, see those words, and say it to myself. Smelling the candle burn, it sure smells like love.

From a Distance

I spent the morning messaging a very good friend. It was a sweet time of connection, and we do this most mornings. She has become my very best friend, and I told her so today.

I saw her typing on messenger, and it was taking a while to pop up on the screen. So, I went to the kitchen to refill my coffee cup, and am really glad I did, once I read what she wrote.

Today has been an emotional day. Ed Sheeran’s new album was released, and my daughter downloaded it, and started playing it early this morning. Being the cool Mom that I am, I per-ordered the gift set of the album for her, but I am not sure it was solely for her.

God knows when you are walking through moments of tenderness.

He will send His angels to watch over you. They may come in the form of a friend, music, or whatever He chooses that you will recognize. God created our heart, and He knows how to soothe it. Thank God to the person who created Kleenex that doesn’t leave your nose raw.

My friend’s words touched my very soul, and I wasn’t sure I was worthy of them. She lives about an hour away, but she has been watching me from a distance, and knows me very well. We are like soul sista’s, and are capable of finishing one another’s sentences and thoughts.

This is what she said. I told her I was going to make a Meme out of it.

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I can only hope it poured out of her heart, in reflection of what I give to her, because I could have easily written it about her too. She took the time to write it out, and I took the time to make it a keepsake. The perfectionist in me wanted to reformat the entire Meme, to make room for our signatures. Words are meant to fill an empty space, and these filled up the Meme, and my heart. I see her signature, even from a distance.

Barbara is a Writer, a Mom to her 17-year-old daughter, a recent Breast Cancer survivor, and she loves God. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

Time and Patience

I have read a lot of frightening articles about relationships. You can barely define the word anymore. In an ever changing world, God hasn’t changed His definition. It is still the same.

To have any type relationship, I believe first comes some type of love. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 says, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

Maybe we have forgotten what love is?

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Firmly planted in my mind, was an idea of how I wanted to be loved. Based on parts that felt good in the past. I had to let all that go, to receive what God had planned. It didn’t look familiar, but there’s that connection you cannot avoid. Maybe people are looking for that immediate connection, and get lost in it instead. Stay connected, and grab some bricks.

Sometimes sex occurs after the connection. Well..That is another ‘feel good’ moment, and will not be a brick, or the glue to hold you together. You can find sex anywhere, and very easily today. If that is all you’re looking for, you may not be ready for a relationship. The one thing I see people running from today is ‘Commitment’. Your life is a commitment.

Are you a trustworthy person? Are you loyal? Do you strive to do the next right thing?

What you have inside you, is what you have to offer that other person. Be complete within yourself, and not look for someone to complete you. If you feel you’re missing something, or have a void inside, find that first. Did I mention it’s a God shaped void? I drank for many years trying to fill that speck of emptiness inside. Pouring in what the world had to offer.

It didn’t work, and almost killed me. The day I asked God for help, He did, and I was whole.

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Love is happiness. I smile a lot today, and have a circle of people who give me that smile.

My unconditional love comes from God. He loves me no matter what I say, and forgives me when I mess up. I allow Him to mold me, and form me into what He wants me to be. Loving is not for wussies. It takes courage in allowing someone to love you just the way you are.

To love and to be loved is the greatest gift of all. Time and patience. Brick by brick.

 

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Barbara is a Writer, Certified Letting Go Coach, and Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and has a pretty healthy obsession for chocolate. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com