Taking Her Advice

She followed her heart, and so shall I.

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Photo Cred: Simply Semloh Eiffel Tower lastnight.

Try New Things

I sent my sister a copy of Bella Grace magazine.

She is going through a difficult phase in life, and I just wanted her to have something beautiful to hold. Something that would speak kindness to her.

After placing the order, another magazine caught my eye. I have an intense love for smells, so candles and soaps are a high priority in this beautiful life. I’ve always bought them from local vendors at the Farmer’s Markets, but recently, I’ve had this yearning to try my hand at making them myself. Well….

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Willow and Sage

My excuse for not making them myself was, I would spend a fortune on the container for the candle. They would have to be blingy and beautiful, and it would take forever to decide. When I saw the cover of Willow and Sage my excuse was no longer valid.

It’s literally a hulled out lemon half!

In Texas we can buy lemons for .25 cents each!

Mr. Smith taught me about excuses. All of the reasons I gave him for not trying my hand at candle making were merely excuses. He encourages me to do anything that makes my heart happy. He knows if I’m happy, the people around me will be too.

My daughter loves the way our home smells. She walked in yesterday and yelled, “This house smells like fall!” I just smiled, and thought, “Just you wait darling…Just you wait. Willow and Sage is on the way.” They have a magazine for making soap too.

Stand up Straight

I am still learning my way through plants.

The first thing I learned is, the care tags are not always accurate. Plants, just like humans, don’t have the same level of care. You have to watch, and see what they need.

This Asparagus Fern is a great example. Knowing it enjoyed part shade, I kept it out of direct sun, but then I noticed something. While sitting in the shade, the new growth seemed to be reaching, or stretching toward the light.

With the seasons changing, I sat it where it would receive more sun, but only for a few hours. Something else I’ve learned is, everything enjoys light, but not direct sunlight.

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Being in more light, the new growth is standing up straight.

This reminded me of a Meme I came across lastnight.

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Learning To Live

We are getting much needed rain here in Texas. I have three chickens in the side yard that have not witnessed rain in a long time. When it started to pour from the sky, they freaked out and started running around. They have a coop to provide shelter, with the door standing wide open, but are huddled up against the house instead. They are called chickens for a reason.

blog1Maybe we forgive and forget how things feel. Forgiveness has to come first, or the forgetting will not take place. It will haunt us and make us miserable until we forgive. God wants us to forgive others for wrongdoing, but we often forget to forgive ourselves.

The house my ex-husband lives in is the same house we shared. When I left, I only took a few things, so you couldn’t tell at first glance, that anything was missing. The furnishings remained the same as I left them, with a few replacement pieces. I don’t know how he has lived there. I guess he hasn’t. It has just been sheltering from the storms of life.

brokenI saw that house as a slow brewing storm or vortex. My ex-husband blames himself for the dissolve of our marriage. It’s not true, but that is how he sees it. Recently, I sent him an email asking him to forgive me for hurting him. I don’t know that he can because he is going to have to find forgiveness for his soul first. He needed to leave that house.

His favorite Bible verse is Jeremiah 29:11. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” His life is not reflective of his favorite verse. When you are stuck in the past, there is no future.

I started praying for God to move and show my ex His goodness. It was passed time for him to leave that house, and all the haunting memories it stored. Last weekend, my ex took our daughter to look at a house he saw in the newspaper. She showed me pictures of it, and it’s the perfect house for him! He is moving in November!

When my ex and I first met, he lived in a condo on a lake in Virginia. This house is reminiscent of that condo, and is overlooking a lake! God is restoring the years lost, by placing him in the last place he was his happiest. Now he can have a beautiful shelter, surrounded by God’s goodness and start the forgiving process. Let the healing begin.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com