Stay the Path

So Beautiful Souls. Today is my last day on “the job.” I received a text lastnight saying they had hired someone to take my place. It’s a good thing I don’t get offended anymore. Lol

I knew it was only temporary. Stepping in when it was needed, and helping to hold what was in place, in place. My life is already full, so doing this alongside everything else was a challenge. A friend once told me, “I can endure anything as long as I know how long it will last.”

That is refreshing, isn’t it?

Knowing it was a temporary assignment, I was able to do the best I could, seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. You may laugh at this scenario, because I did, but picture this. I had two laptops set up in the house. One was my own personal laptop, that I write on, encourage others on my Letitgocoach Facebook page, and nurture my world through.

The other was one from this job. It housed everything work related to the job, and made a lot of noise. It dinged everytime an email, or voicemail came into that office. When I first took it into my possession, the lady that had it before me had the sound muted. Now I know why. It constantly beckoned for my attention if I was sitting at my laptop across the room.Isn’t that how life can be darlings?

It can be noisy, and distracting, but I jumped back and forth, trying to take care of both. A juggling act of sorts.

Today I take the laptop back, and hand it to the new girl with glee. Even though making extra money was nice, it was not worth doing it for any longer than I did.

My personal laptop brings me so much joy! There is no price tag for that. Everything I do on it, is because I have a yearning to do so. It houses my passion.

Mr. Smith took this photo when he was out on a walk, and sent it to me. I love it because it gives the idea there may be two paths becoming one. Can you see it?

Sometimes we veer off the path to learn new things, or to help someone out. I am grateful today that I am quicker to get back on my path, and that I still choose joy over money. Stay the path beauties.

Barbara is a writer, Entrepreneur and Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and has a pretty healthy obsession for chocolate. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was what stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

Just Be Held

Sitting at my desk early this morning, I heard the chickens by my window. That would mean they were in the front yard, instead of the side. They had jumped the fence, looking for me because they had a need. I walked them back through the gate, gave them food and made a note to replenish their water. Isn’t that how life should be?

To be cared for. The only being I have found that consistently cares for me is God. There are no strings attached, no ultimatums, no scenarios, just seek Him and He’ll care for me. He provides my every need and loves me flaws and all.

pathI was driving home the other day, and Casting Crowns came on the radio. Driving down the road, I listened closely to this song entitled, Just Be Held. It made perfect sense to me. I had been where the song is describing, and I’m there again now. The song says, “Stop holding on and just be held.” That sounds simple, but it’s not easy.

The rest of the chorus says, “Your world’s not falling apart it’s falling into place. I’m on the throne, stop holding on and just be held.” I love that. Do you feel like your world is falling apart? I think it has to fall apart a little to fall back into place better.

We ask His forgiveness, forgive whoever disappointed us and then forgive ourselves. He never stopped loving us; we just need to forgive and move forward. That is the kind of love I seek. The kind that will encourage me to grow when I feel strong and when I’m not, I can just be held. The arms of God will never let you go.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

Time and Patience

I typed in the title for this Blog three days ago. That is when God gave it to me. It has taken me until today for it to fully form in my heart. Was I busy? Did I get distracted? Was He testing me to see if I knew anything about the title?

I went over to my laptop desktop for a picture to use. I try and keep my desktop neat and somewhat clean, so I clicked on the oldest one there. The first one downloaded after the last cleanup. This one caught my eye a month ago.

waitI am learning time takes patience and patience takes time. This has been a big deal for me this year, coming from a woman that was once known as Ms. Ready, Fire, Aim. All year I’ve been waiting on God.

I have found the less I do, the richer my life becomes.

Doing less does not mean being lazy. There are three things I wanted to learn about and grow myself into this year, and by His grace, I am still focused. Writing, teaching how to Let It Go, and encouraging others on my Letitgocoach Facebook page. Magnificent things happen over time.

Has any of these three things happened in my timetable? No. Have they happened quickly? No. Have I felt like giving up and caving in? Yes. linedry

When you keep your eyes and heart fixed on God, you cannot worry about tomorrow. To me, that is not trusting God, and thinking He is going to make a mistake. I’m pretty sure He is incapable of that. God doesn’t make mistakes; we do.

I enjoy calling it, ‘Moments of minding my own business.’ When I least expect it, God will encourage me and let me know, I’m on the right path. He works through people to say, “You doing good Barb! Stay strong!” He will send someone to my Facebook page, or this Blog to encourage me.

November is coming up quick, and am I where I want to be? I don’t think so, but God must have me right where He thinks I should be. It’s going to be His timing and my patience. Now if we can get that ‘like’ button to become ‘love.’

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

 

 

 

Just Being Me

There is a reason it feels good to be loved when we are going through pain. That is why we go to a funeral home, to see the family of the deceased, to show them care and help them through their loss. It’s human nature to want to isolate and be alone to lick our wounds, but that doesn’t heal, it only forms a scab. Love will heal our wounds, but we have to be loved very well and with no agendas.

blogI love the way SC Lourie writes. It’s like her very soul breathes and forms words on paper. Plus, she begins each writing with the word, ‘darling’, in the opening line. Being from Texas, I find that to be sweet.

Do you ever feel accused of changing?

We do change, but I believe it’s a peeling process. God creates us to be whole and promises that we are enough. The outside world comes at us and our being can become hidden. Do we allow the world to change us, which is stealing our natural state of being, or do we continually look inside and release new parts of what was already there?

I believe love is very healing. No matter what has happened in our past, if we can come to terms with who we really are, and love ourselves, healing begins. To let go of every negative feeling and thought, and what other people think and say about us. To get to know your one true self and be good with sitting in your own skin.

I look back at this journey I began a couple of years ago, and it’s miraculous seeing the life I have today. It’s not what I did so much as what I gave up. Letting go of past hurts, peoples words and opinions about me. If they’re talking about the person they once knew, I’m not her anymore.  I have changed. I was in there all along, but time, patience and love is bringing her out to fully blossom. I had to stop being a magnet for the world to latch onto, and just be me.

Feel The Pain

The most difficult part of being sober was actually feeling. One of the reasons I drank was to ‘not feel’ and face reality, so when that was removed, I had a flood of emotions to deal with. Living life on life’s terms was harsh reality.

When someone hurts you, it hurts. It’s a lot like an actual wound where you get cut, it bleeds, you stop the bleeding and give it time to heal. If you don’t take care of it, it can get infected or not heal properly. It takes time to heal.

letitgoWhen people hurt me, I try not to take it personally. It’s something they are going through and I just got it the way. If they hurt me continuously and I don’t remove myself from the situation, it’s like picking the scab off the original wound. It doesn’t have time to heal and the pain starts again.

Feeling the pain of being hurt, you must take time for yourself to let it heal. Some people hold onto the pain and let it fester into bitterness and resentment. This is a devastating way to live your life. Every time you are reminded of  the person who hurt you, the scab comes off and you bleed.

Go through the healing process and allow yourself time to realize you are going to be okay. Once the wound is completely healed, you’ll be better than okay. Every good cry, washes away the pain and makes me better than before. Get to the other side of pain and become stronger for it.

There is beauty on the other side. Everyone heals at a different pace, but it shouldn’t take a lot of time. A broken bone takes roughly 6 to 8 weeks to heal, but your heart may take more or less time. It depends on how deep the cut was. If you can forgive the person who caused you pain, step away and take time for the wound to heal, time will heal. Time and God can heal a broken heart. With God, you just have to make sure you give Him every single piece.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a LetItgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is working on her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

Let Me In

This week, I have been reflecting on growth and the progress made. My daughter suggested I look at that and she is always right. This brings us to matters of the heart, which mine had grown hard over the years. God has a blowtorch.

heartLoving and being loved are two different things. It’s a simple act of kindness to love others, but to let others love you? There are many levels and the higher we go, the more difficult it gets. I can let someone in, but only so far.

What I found is the level I let them in, is the level the relationship stays. The more I give, the more they give and receive. I remember standing on the pier, asking God, “When are you going to send that special someone to love?” God promptly replied, “When are you going to let me?” Time to open up more.

God will send someone to nudge their way into your heart, mind and soul. You don’t have to be ready, but you need to be willing. They won’t settle for just a little bit of you, or a part time love. No, they want all of you and in a big way. God won’t send a sissy. No, it will be someone strong enough to handle every piece of what you have to offer.

Let go of your heart and allow someone in to love you. It’s not as hard as you think, and the letting in is worth it.

biopicBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Let It Go Coach and helping others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is working on her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

Cut Them Ties

I love mornings. It’s the start of a new day and is full of possibilities. Sometimes it’s easy to feel the effects of the previous day. A conversation with someone didn’t end right, or a misunderstanding may need resolution. Try not to bring yesterday into today. Look at this day for what it is, a new day and realize that yesterday is in the past.

touchThe past can ruin your day. Choose to stop dragging it around with you. If someone hurt your feelings yesterday, or made you mad, Let It Go and move on. If you are an important part of their life, they will reach out and let you know you are loved. The past doesn’t define us but it will refine us.

Don’t hold a grudge. A grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Try not to let the sun go down on your anger. When I go to bed angry, I always wake up feeling miserable. We’re not responsible for anyone’s words or actions except our own. Be the best you can be, and trust in knowing you are more than enough. Give the rest to God.

Enjoy this beautiful day. If you’re not seeing the beauty, it may be time to clean up your playground. Cut the ties that bind you to negativity and unhealthy relationships. Your life can be beautiful if you choose carefully. Treat yourself with the respect and kindness you deserve. If others cannot then they shouldn’t be there. Let them go.

 

biopicBarb is a writer and enjoys being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. She has been an Entrepreneur for 25 years and has run several successful businesses. She gave up that life to write and become a Let It Go Coach. Barb has experience, strength and hope to share, and wants others to enjoy their lives. She hosts a Virtual Workshop every other month. The sessions last 8 weeks and were instrumental in giving Barb the beautiful life she enjoys today. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com