To Be Missed

My daughter’s boyfriend is from Missouri. They spent 7 days together over Christmas break. She drove him to the airport yesterday, and returned home with a tear stained face.

They have maintained this long distance relationship for 15 months. He is 19, and she is 17, but they are mature for their ages. I’m encouraging her to write about how they do this.

 

When she came home yesterday evening, I just gave her some space. She cried some more, and I took her tissues. I wanted her to cry and much as she needed, and to feel what was going on. Missing someone is a painful experience, but I would rather have someone to miss than to not. I told her, “It’s good that you miss him. I would be worried if you didn’t.”

Thanks to the almighty airline miles, they get to see one another often. Maybe not as much as they would like, but I believe they are blessed. Once every two, or three months, they reconnect face to face. Their love for one another comes easily, and is refreshing to watch.

I believe that is the way it should be. Love should come easily.

I know people that will have a hard time receiving love because of their idea of how they should be loved. What if you let go of those ideas, and just allowed yourself to be loved? I believe you would be pleasantly surprised how simple it is. This doesn’t mean downsizing your values, but you may need to let go of some expectations on what love should look like.

Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble, and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” I have found this to be true. Humble, gentle, patient and bearing.

My daughter will see her guy again soon. In the meantime, they will live their lives to the best of their ability, but keep a space in their hearts for one another. It’s good to be missed.

Brick by Brick

I have read a lot of frightening articles about relationships. You can barely define the word anymore. In an ever changing world, God hasn’t changed His definition. It is still the same.

Maybe we have forgotten what love is?

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Firmly planted in my mind, was an idea of how I wanted to be loved. Based on parts that felt good in the past. I had to let all that go of my past beliefs, to receive what God had planned.

It didn’t look familiar, but there’s that connection you can’t deny. Maybe people are looking for that immediate connection, and get lost in it instead.

Are you a trustworthy person? Are you loyal? Do you strive to do the next right thing?

These attributes are what I call bricks, and helps build the foundation of the relationship.

What you have inside you, is what you have to offer. Be complete within yourself, and stop looking for someone to complete you. If you feel you’re missing something, or have a void inside, find that first.

For me, it was a God shaped void.

The day I asked God for help, He did, and I was made whole.

 

My unconditional love comes from God. He loves me no matter what, and forgives me when I mess up. I allow Him to mold me, and form me into what He wants me to be. It takes courage to allow someone to love you just the way you are.

To love and to be loved is the greatest gift of all. Time and patience. Brick by brick.