To Be Missed

My daughter’s boyfriend is from Missouri. They spent 7 days together over Christmas break. She drove him to the airport yesterday, and returned home with a tear stained face.

They have maintained this long distance relationship for 15 months. He is 19, and she is 17, but they are mature for their ages. I’m encouraging her to write about how they do this.

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When she came home yesterday evening, I just gave her some space. She cried some more, and I took her tissues. I wanted her to cry and much as she needed, and to feel what was going on. Missing someone is a painful experience, but I would rather have someone to miss than to not. I told her, “It’s good that you miss him. I would be worried if you didn’t.”

Thanks to the almighty airline miles, they get to see one another often. Maybe not as much as they would like, but I believe they are blessed. Once every two, or three months, they reconnect face to face. Their love for one another comes easily, and is refreshing to watch.

I believe that is the way it should be. Love should come easily.

I know people that will have a hard time receiving love because of their idea of how they should be loved. What if you let go of those ideas, and just allowed yourself to be loved? I believe you would be pleasantly surprised how simple it is. This doesn’t mean downsizing your values, but you may need to let go of some expectations on what love should look like.

Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble, and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” I have found this to be true. Humble, gentle, patient and bearing.

My daughter will see her guy again soon. In the meantime, they will live their lives to the best of their ability, but keep a space in their hearts for one another. It’s good to be missed.

 

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Barbara is a Writer, a Mom to her 17-year-old daughter, and loves God. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. She found out in March of this year that she has Breast Cancer. She has completed Chemo, and is starting Radiation. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

 

Time and Patience

I have read a lot of frightening articles about relationships. You can barely define the word anymore. In an ever changing world, God hasn’t changed His definition. It is still the same.

To have any type relationship, I believe first comes some type of love. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 says, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

Maybe we have forgotten what love is?

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Firmly planted in my mind, was an idea of how I wanted to be loved. Based on parts that felt good in the past. I had to let all that go, to receive what God had planned. It didn’t look familiar, but there’s that connection you cannot avoid. Maybe people are looking for that immediate connection, and get lost in it instead. Stay connected, and grab some bricks.

Sometimes sex occurs after the connection. Well..That is another ‘feel good’ moment, and will not be a brick, or the glue to hold you together. You can find sex anywhere, and very easily today. If that is all you’re looking for, you may not be ready for a relationship. The one thing I see people running from today is ‘Commitment’. Your life is a commitment.

Are you a trustworthy person? Are you loyal? Do you strive to do the next right thing?

What you have inside you, is what you have to offer that other person. Be complete within yourself, and not look for someone to complete you. If you feel you’re missing something, or have a void inside, find that first. Did I mention it’s a God shaped void? I drank for many years trying to fill that speck of emptiness inside. Pouring in what the world had to offer.

It didn’t work, and almost killed me. The day I asked God for help, He did, and I was whole.

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Love is happiness. I smile a lot today, and have a circle of people who give me that smile.

My unconditional love comes from God. He loves me no matter what I say, and forgives me when I mess up. I allow Him to mold me, and form me into what He wants me to be. Loving is not for wussies. It takes courage in allowing someone to love you just the way you are.

To love and to be loved is the greatest gift of all. Time and patience. Brick by brick.

 

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Barbara is a Writer, Certified Letting Go Coach, and Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and has a pretty healthy obsession for chocolate. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com