Just Trust Me

I wrote this two years ago today. I find it interesting how time goes by, and our lives change. This Blog refers to something from my past coming back to haunt me, but I don’t even recall what that was. It must not have been that bad, because I’m here loving life.

Another thing I noticed is, now when people ask me what I do, the first thing I tell them is, “I write.” That has come to the forefront for me, and my job is in the background. I also trust God more now, than a couple of years ago.  Time goes by, we make choices, and here we are.

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I’m sitting here before I retire for the evening and just wanted to write. I love to write. People ask me what I do and I tell them about my jobs and then I add, “I’m a writer.” They find my job status interesting enough. Helping people with their businesses is a stretch and grow for me, but they always look up at me with a smile when I add the ‘writer’ part. It’s like they want to ask all of the questions rolling through their mind, but are hesitant. It’s fun.

trustI found myself coming full circle today on trusting God. There was a season in my life, not that long ago, that I trusted Him just to wake me up the next day. He always did. Not knowing what direction my new life should go, I trusted Him for every step and sometimes every breath.

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Please Pay Attention

I am guessing when you live in a 1940’s farmhouse, you need to leave the water running with more force so it doesn’t freeze. I left it running slowly lastnight, but awoke to frozen pipes again.

This is really testing my character. Like so many things in life, I know patience and waiting will resolve the issue. The sun is out, and it’s going to be warm today, so we wait. It’s the patience part I’m having to work on this morning. I’m finding gratitude even without water.

I haven’t talked much about my divorce, mainly because it’s going in the book I’m writing, but I wanted to touch on one thing in particular this morning. Actions.

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My then husband was very hurt when I left. I refused to live in mediocrity, and I took our daughter with me, so he had a right. After almost four years you would think the hurt would have healed for him, but it hasn’t. He did things to create chaos in my newfound life, but I chose not to react to his actions. Once I stopped reacting to his actions, the game was over.

Hurt people will hurt people.

The only residual left from my married life is the IRS. Again, he didn’t do what was right, so the IRS has a way of haunting you about that. I am working with them, and believing God to make things right. Just like the thawing of these water pipes, it will take time and patience.

I pray for my ex husbands heart. That God will heal the hurt he carries inside, but it is up to him to receive my prayer, and allow healing to take place. When the time is right, he will heal. One thing I know is, his actions will be used by God to make me better, and stronger.

He did something rather sneaky last year, that will effect my new year. Somehow he got ahead paying child support without my realizing it. He bundled some of the payments, where instead of one monthly, he did three at once. I wasn’t paying close enough attention.

In November of 2016, he sent me a text informing me that he was ahead on payments, so I would be without child support for a while in 2017. I didn’t respond. I just sat still until I found peace. He knows this action has the ability to make my life difficult, but I know I’m going to grow through it. God has never let me down, and He’s not going to start with this.

It’s how we react to other people’s pain that fuels the fire, or extinguishes it. I also believe when people do things out of hurt, those things have a way of coming back to bite them.

I am guessing it’s not just me; he does hurtful things in other areas of his life. My daughter has a good heart, and she enjoys doing things that bring people joy. This brings her joy.

Our holiday schedule per the divorce allowed me to have her home for Christmas Day. My daughter made a decision to split the day between him and me. She knew it would cause disruption in the plans we had for that day, but everyone was willing to make adjustments.

We knew what she chose to do was good, and from her heart. So, she spent half of Christmas day with me and the ones I love, and drove to her Father’s house that afternoon. He was unaware of her decision, because she wanted it to be a surprise. Well, it was a surprise alright.

She got to his home, and rang the doorbell, and he was completely shocked when he opened the door and saw her standing there. She said, “Merry Christmas Daddy!” Can you imagine? He sent me a text that evening, thanking me for allowing her to come. I had nothing to do with it, accept to help make it possible for her. She is a big girl, and makes her own decisions.

I am grateful she makes them from the heart, and they are good. His text went on to say, “It was the nicest thing that has happened to him in a very long while.” I believe we know why.

Keep your side of the street clean, your heart pure, but please pay attention.

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Barbara is a Writer, a Mom to her 17-year-old daughter, and loves God. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. She found out in March of 2016 that she has Breast Cancer. She has completed Chemo, and is starting Radiation. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

It’s Your Choice

A lady friend stopped by unannounced for a visit. She just needed a listening ear. When she was ready to go home, she opened the door, looked at me and said, “I want what you have.”

What I have is due to an unstoppable God, and the choices I’ve made.

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Maybe she also saw what I don’t have. I don’t have drama in my life. That didn’t happen by accident. I refuse to associate with drama-filled people. My friend was sitting in my den, thoroughly exhausted from life. As I listened intently, it dawned on me, everything that was making her tired was because of choices she had made. Her choices were making life hard.

Life is not hard. It shouldn’t be a struggle. I believe we have the power to make it hard.

Life is a privilege, and is meant to be enjoyed. I am filled with peace.

33 I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have [perfect] peace. In the world you have tribulation and distress and suffering, but be courageous [be confident, be undaunted, be filled with joy]; I have overcome the world.” [My conquest is accomplished, My victory abiding.] John 16:33Amplified Bible (AMP)

That is what I believe my friend wanted that I have. No matter what life throws at me, it’s not worth the price of peace. No matter how life changes, God never does. He is faithful, and wants the very best for us. He doesn’t need our help like we so often think He does.

My friend had made her choices based on other people’s choices. That is never good. I am sure she was trying to help, and make their life better. In result, her life felt hard, because she was doing more for others than for herself. Other people choices are their choices.

It stops there. This is how life teaches us what needs to change.

Don’t make choices for your life based on someone else’s choices for theirs. It’s your life, and there is only one, so make it beautiful! You can have a beautiful life. It’s your choice.

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Barbara is a God follower, a Writer, and Mom to her 17-year-old daughter. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Part of her mission is to show people they can start over at 50. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com