Tea and Me

I opened an Instagram account this year. My daughter has had one for a while, and she posts the most beautiful pictures, especially during her travels. My daughter loves photography and is great at editing for effect. I am not the greatest, and just use my phone as a tool, but it brings me joy. It’s something new to learn and stretch myself this year.

This year is about being the best Barb I can be. If you read yesterday’s Blog, there was a question asked that has become our theme for the year. In a word, it’s about unbecoming.

teanme (524x640)I grew up in North Carolina and on sweet tea. Moving to Texas, I quickly discovered, they have tea, but no sweet tea. Putting sugar in a glass of already made tea is not happiness.

This is where my love of hot tea came in. I have never been a fan of hot tea, but at least it would dissolve sugar! I recalled attending Mother/Daughter teas when my daughter was younger, and how delightful they were. The tea was delicious and it made for a beautiful experience. Somewhere along my path, I discovered Zhi Tea. They bring me happiness.

Hot tea has enhanced my life in beautiful ways. Whenever I need a moment to be good to myself, I fix a cup of tea. I rarely miss a day, and some days require an entire press of tea.

Beauty is all around, but sometimes we have to seek it. If you’re not seeing the beauty in your life, just be still and let it reveal itself to you. It’s there just waiting for your attention.

Barbara is a writer, Entrepreneur and Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and has a pretty healthy obsession for chocolate. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was what stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

I’m Not Barbie

I have put off writing this because I’m still moving from the drive. I enjoy being in control, but when I ponder the past few weeks, there is no evidence of that. I wanted this month to be a time of reflection, but God had other plans.

I knew as soon as I saw her number come up on my phone. It was laying on my desk, next to my laptop, and I just stared at it while it was ringing. When I answered she was sobbing, and then I knew God had heard our plea for help.

Mama did not wake up that morning my sister conveyed. This had been a long ride for all, but especially my sister.

I loved my Mama. She was a kick butt, independent, strong minded woman that would hug the breath right outta ya.

Until she was diagnosed with Dementia. She labeled this piece for me to have because she knew she might not recall.

barbieI didn’t know what to do. All I knew was I had to get to my sister and make sure she was okay. The airlines want you to pay them in gold bricks the month of December, so driving it was. From me to her was 20 hours of driving time, and I had not driven that far before.

My sister’s ex husband heard the news, and posted his condolences on my Facebook page. He referred to me as Barbie, so my friends probably wondered, ‘Who is Barbie?”

That was my nickname growing up. My full name is Barbara, so I guess my family thought it was cute to shorten it to Barbie. They are the only ones that call me Barbie. People have tried after finding out about it, but it doesn’t sound right. It’s one of those things you respond to from a family member because it fits. I am not her today.

My family still sees me as little Barbie which is humorous to me. They have no interest in changing their vision; they do not know I write, and have not read this Blog. The last thing they heard was I got a divorce which was almost 3 years ago. They don’t know Barbara.

Am I glad I went? Yes. Would I do it again? No. I missed spending Christmas with my family here in Texas. The ones who read my writing, know more about me than they should, support and love me through this journey called life.

I miss my Mama, but I have missed her for years. She is in heaven completely healed, and I’ll always be her Barbie.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer, Entrepreneur and Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and will eat cake with real buttercream icing. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name given. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

It’s All Good

I write about beauty and this life God has given me. Something my sponsor would say to me when I complained was, “You want some cheese and crackers to go with that whine?” That caused me to stop whining and made me smile.

Sometimes I can be my own worst enemy. Overthinking any given phrase can cause me to pick apart a conversation. The handful of people I surround myself with would be better off if I would choose the correct role and stay there. My daughter wants a Mom and not a Coach. She will tell me often, “Stop coaching me.” It’s what I do, not who I am.

blog1The one thing I Coach about more than anything else is ‘happiness.’ I enjoy numerous levels of happiness, but some people have none. My passion is to help people find the right level for themselves. What is the biggest culprit of zero happiness? Other people. Yes, people happen.

It would be nice to stay in my own little pretty world, but I can’t bless others if I do that. God places people in my path wherever I go that need encouragement, even at the grocery store. They just gravitate toward me and I enjoy it very much. Sometimes it’s just to listen to their problems, or to assist them in unloading their cart. You know you have a person in desperate need when all they want is a hug.

It’s important to have at least one person in your life who knows and loves your authentic self. I can lose myself in what I do, but I have a friend in North Carolina who knows me very well. She finds it humorous that I am the woman who would not have one animal, and today, I am Sweeping Dog Hair. She gently reminds me of who I am, how far I’ve come and how God wants to use me. We need at least one person who believes in us. I am here and I believe in you.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Let It Go Coach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is working on her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com