Go With It

We have in our minds what the perfect relationship should be. I know I had a list, do you? There are certain qualities I think we should look for but we should probably burn the list. Have my ideas brought me success in the past? Nope.

I was talking to a lady yesterday that wants a long term relationship. She obviously has a list of what that should look like because she keeps trying. She is divorced, like me, so how did that list work in the past? Let see if we can get this.

blog1God places people in our lives for a reason. Divine intervention is what I see. Are they all relationships? Yes, but on all different levels. Some will be long term and some short term if we allow them to evolve naturally.

It’s what we choose to learn from the relationship that makes it healthy or not so much. Seeing it for what it is and nothing more. To go with it.

Toward the end of my marriage, we stopped communicating. It wasn’t worth it because it always ended in the same fight. He would bring up behaviors from the past, and I  believe that can be blinding. If you are so focused on the past, you cannot see the person standing before you.

I’m not the same person I was yesterday, so how can I be the one from years ago?

Communication was at the top of my list for future relationships. That is what I was looking for. If someone was a talker I was happy, but here is what I learned. They can talk but not listen. Do you have relationships like that?

It makes sense to me now that the one person who wants to talk through everything is the quietest person I know.


blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer, Entrepreneur and a Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and will only eat cake with real buttercream icing. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name given. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com


A Full Heart

Cleaning house is like therapy for me. It might be a few days before I get around to it, but once I do, I find my center. Just doing something with a positive outcome like mopping, vacuuming or dusting, always brings things into focus.

The shower has the same effect. Maybe God has something about clean because He has me in one spot for a moment and I’m able to listen. Mopping the floor today, I was enjoying the beauty of the wood. Each slab is unique and has it’s own design. I don’t have it covered up with a rug, but it did bring to mind a rug I used to have.

It’s at my ex husbands house, where I left a lot of stuff. He’s not using it, so for an instant, I toyed with the idea of asking him for it. It is a hugely expensive rug, rolled up collecting dust. It amuses me when I think of a material object from the past that I would like to have today. It never works though. They just don’t fit where I am.

blognewI completely understand the draw of holding onto the past. Whether it’s material objects, or people, it’s comforting. Pondering this today, I can’t think of  anything from my past that would bring me joy in my present.

The past is the past for a reason. It’s not healthy to live there and it’s next to impossible to move on and grow. When I was able to let go and clear my heart and mind, there was room for growth.

The more you clear the clutter of your past, the more room you have for new possibilities. Only keep room in your heart for what you want to see in your life. I wanted a life of beauty and God’s goodness. What do you want?