The Wanna List

It was a beautiful weekend. I stayed home, and did whatever made my heart happy. It’s refreshing at this stage of my life to have no more ‘to do’ list. Instead, there is a ‘wanna’ list.

Throughout the day, I would see something that could to be done, and ask myself, “Do I wanna do that?” My daughter painted the walls of her bedroom last week, so now the trim looks dingy. The man at the paint store gave her a quart of, ‘Whitest White’, to try. Did I wanna paint trim, and surprise her when she arrived home from her Dad’s? Not really.

I grabbed a wooden plant stand she has in her room, and took it to the porch. My vision was to paint it using the white to see if she wanted something that bright in her room, before painting miles of trim. Dipping the paint brush into the can, and doing light strokes across the top shelf, it didn’t cover the surface completely. You could see the original color peeping through, which complimented her room as is.  I continued with light strokes on all three shelves, and boom!


It took all of 10 minutes, and I believe she will be pleased.

That is how I spent the weekend. Giving my life a light touch.

In the post entitled, Dream While Awake, we talk about de-cluttering, and making room for more. We already have more than enough ‘things’ lovely, so that’s not the point.

It really is de-cluttering our minds, and hearts, to make room for more of what brings us joy! You can see from the picture, my daughter is into plants. She has collected a few easy ones, because neither of us have good luck with them. We love them to death. Literally. Plants take a light, loving touch.

This Spring, my daughter had a vision for our front porch. We have two hooks to hang plants from, and she requested Boston Ferns. My initial reaction was, “I can probably kill those quickly!” I have never been able to keep one alive, but my guess would be, I tried too hard. Like a lot of things in my life before now. I bought one, hung it on the porch, and she was happy. It’s been easy to care for, but she gently reminded me there is one more hook. This weekend, I gazed at the empty hook, and just knew it didn’t need to be empty.

I gave myself time with the one and only fern. Telling myself, “If I can keep it alive and flourishing, it would receive a companion.” My daughter’s vision has become a reality.


My daughter and I are so well connected, the things that make my heart happy, make her heart happy too. Speaking of heart happy. This will make your heart soar. SC Lourie’s new journal, “How the Light Gets Out,” is available now! This journal is so beautiful, I have been carrying it from room to room for over a month. You can view and purchase it here.

This journal brings me joy! SC Lourie is one of my favorite writer’s and she’s an inspiration to me. You may know her as ButterfliesandPebbles. The pages of her journal are so beautiful, I haven’t felt led to write in it! It’s not that I’m afraid to use it because I surely will, but it waters my soul just as it is.

Lastnight, as my weekend was coming to a close, I sat and flipped through the pages. When I saw this page, I was happy to see we were on the same page. Hah! (Good pun). SC Lourie had summed up my weekend, and my life. It says, “What do you wanna, darling?” I’ll just leave that here.

Just Go Away

I spoke with my sister earlier today. Her husband retired January 1st, and it’s been an adjustment. He worked for months at a time in New York, and then came home for a week or so, only to go back for another few months. Time has mellowed him and she is going to enjoy him being home. I encouraged her to do just that and if they get on each others nerves, don’t go in separate directions. Get away together. Make up for lost time.

So, I’m journeying with a group of beautiful souls through SC Louries, Tender To My Soul. She writes about visiting Paris with her family and how everything was out of the norm. She couldn’t find her daily routine, and the things she had grown accustomed to.

mountain (265x340)I felt this way when Mr. Smith took me to Colorado. Not only did I lose cell service, but everything was foreign. The air, elevation, and my surroundings were a huge change, and I couldn’t find things I was used to having. You can read more about that here.

SC, or Samantha as we call her, decided to embrace this uncomfortableness, after the initial shock. She has allowed it to unfold and remained completely aware. Instead of bucking it, she embraced it for what it was. This was the beginning of a beautiful journey for her. Out of it came this spectacular journey she has written and graciously shares.

Looking back, I feel like it might have been best to go with the flow and enjoy the differences more than I did. Not being able to follow my daily routine, this was an opportunity to embrace newness. Unlike Samantha, I came back home and fell back into my daily routine, but I did learn a lot about myself in the process. Changes took place.

When is the last time you went away? Even for a weekend, to just go somewhere to get away from your normal routine. It will open your eyes to what you have, because you’ll miss the little things. While you’re away, try to see where you are and appreciate everything it has to offer in that moment. It’s only temporary, so enjoy it while it lasts. The comforts of home will be waiting at home.



Peace with the Pieces

My disclaimer is I am on my third cup of coffee. This is rare for me these days, as I’m becoming more aware of how I treat my body. I am truly in a season of caring for myself.

So, I am excited about taking a journey with SC Lourie. It’s a 60 day journey about being Tender to My Soul. She is offering it at half price, and this is the last week of the special.

peaceAs I was reading over the Introduction again this morning, these words resonated with me. “Peace with the pieces.” Do those words resonate with you as well?

I was speaking with someone yesterday, and they were so proud of their friend. “She is a certified Life Coach”, is what they announced. I have that piece of paper too, but that doesn’t make me qualified to be your coach.

Someone once told me I have had an unpredictable life. That is an interesting way of describing my journey, and it made me smile. The only thing I have known for certain is, God has been with me every step of the way.

Learning to let go and actually enjoying the journey is what occurred. It hasn’t been a bed of roses everyday, but even those days have made me better in some way. Every step of my life has brought me to where I am today. I can honestly say, the last three years have been the most memorable and beautiful. So, now what to do with the pieces for this year.

Barbara is a writer, Entrepreneur and Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and has a pretty healthy obsession for chocolate. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was what stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email.





Just Being Me

There is a reason it feels good to be loved when we are going through pain. That is why we go to a funeral home, to see the family of the deceased, to show them care and help them through their loss. It’s human nature to want to isolate and be alone to lick our wounds, but that doesn’t heal, it only forms a scab. Love will heal our wounds, but we have to be loved very well and with no agendas.

blogI love the way SC Lourie writes. It’s like her very soul breathes and forms words on paper. Plus, she begins each writing with the word, ‘darling’, in the opening line. Being from Texas, I find that to be sweet.

Do you ever feel accused of changing?

We do change, but I believe it’s a peeling process. God creates us to be whole and promises that we are enough. The outside world comes at us and our being can become hidden. Do we allow the world to change us, which is stealing our natural state of being, or do we continually look inside and release new parts of what was already there?

I believe love is very healing. No matter what has happened in our past, if we can come to terms with who we really are, and love ourselves, healing begins. To let go of every negative feeling and thought, and what other people think and say about us. To get to know your one true self and be good with sitting in your own skin.

I look back at this journey I began a couple of years ago, and it’s miraculous seeing the life I have today. It’s not what I did so much as what I gave up. Letting go of past hurts, peoples words and opinions about me. If they’re talking about the person they once knew, I’m not her anymore.  I have changed. I was in there all along, but time, patience and love is bringing her out to fully blossom. I had to stop being a magnet for the world to latch onto, and just be me.

Your Life Better

I saw a post this morning that resonated with me. It said, “Make a list of things that make you happy. Make a list of things you do everyday. Compare the lists. Adjust accordingly.” How would your two lists compare?

blog1Then I saw this post and of course, the simplistic beauty of it caught my eye. It is blown up full size so you can read it with ease. Just drink it in. This post is my Blog for today. It says everything I wish for you. It took me a long time to learn it, but today, it’s where I am. Make your two lists and adjust accordingly. Choose your life. Make it pretty. ❤


blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email.