Buckets of Love

She’s not crazy.

She’s just been through some stuff.

Everyone I came in contact with today referred to someone as crazy. I especially love it when men refer to their ex’s as crazy. That tells me to stay clear of those men. 🙂

A friend called one of my neighbors crazy in the exact moment I was placing a thank you note in her mailbox for her kindness. I told him, “She’s not crazy. She’s been through a lot and doesn’t trust easily, but I’m just gonna just love her.”

He couldn’t argue with love.

Thank you Paula. 


Buckets of love.

You Are Amazing

I’m truly enjoying the November Soul Reset.

Day Three is talking about gratitude, but not just the proverbial list. It asked me to thank myself.

To say ‘thank you’ to me for being me.

Consider the last time you felt thankful for yourself. Really genuinely. Not because someone told you to. But because it just dawned on you. It just dawned on you that you are pretty amazing. ~SC Lourie

This is rather profound. When I think back of all the things I’ve been through, I tend to thank God, and that someone who stood by me during the storm. I cannot recall if I’ve ever said, “Thank you Barb.” 

I encourage you to take a quiet moment with you. Sit with a warm cuppa, and thank you for being there for you. When you think of who you love most in this world let it be you. You are pretty amazing.


The Only Way To Win

The community of WordPress is a special place.

We lift each other up, and love on one another with comments. Andy here recently nominated me for the Sunshine Blogger award. This is my way of saying thank you. To introduce him to you by sharing his work to my WordPress family.

I love what Andy says about the comparison game. “The only way to win… is not to play.” Thank you Andy for the nomination, and sharing your wisdom. xx

Fill Me Up

This past Wednesday was my birthday. It tipped me over that half a century mark. This used to concern me, but looking at all the changes that have taken place in my life the past 2 years, the second half is going to be awesome.

blog1I believe it took the first half of my life to discover what happiness is. I am still learning and refining the definition. This plaque is hanging in the hallway of my home, and it’s the first thing I see when I open my eyes in the morning, if I look outside my peaceful retreat.

They are the first words I speak, as I just lay there and ponder all the blessings in my life.

Wednesday morning my phone was notifying me early of activity on Facebook. While I slept, my friends were wishing me a Happy Birthday, so I awoke to a lot of love. This has got to be one of the best uses for Facebook ever! People I hadn’t seen or spoken to in years were on my page, sending love. It was and still is a phenomenal feeling! Love fills me up.

Do we take love for granted?

blog3I know I have in the past, but I try hard not to anymore. It can be refreshed so easily, but extinguished just as easy. We have to give it freely to receive. God loves us unconditionally and is always there to give His love to us if we seek Him. Every touch on my Facebook page Wednesday was like a touch from God. He worked through all my friends to love me up good that day, and I am blessed.

My daughter was so excited for my birthday. She was willing to do anything I chose to do that day, and was anxious to see what that would be. Well, I pretty much do whatever I want to do each day, so this was going to be a challenge. We hopped in the truck to go toward town and see what would bring us joy. The surrounding area where we live is on fire, literally. As we drove closer to town, the Texas sky hung heavy with smoke. Sadness.

blog2Bastrop was like a ghost town, with hardly any traffic, which is eerie for a town filled with so much life. If you are reading this, I ask that you hold these families, firefighters and everybody associated with these fires in your prayers and heart. This area was hurt by fire just a few years ago, so this fire needs to be extinguished. My daughter and I just drove around Wednesday evening and prayed.

The fire in my heart burns bright this week, thanks to all my friends who shared their love. I will have plenty of love to give to these hurting people when it becomes evident who all needs it. These pictures are some items that were given to me on my birthday that made my heart smile. My daughter writes a card for me every year, and this year she hand drew a Mandala.

Thank you for reading and sharing this Blog. Thank you for loving me even when I wasn’t doing a good job of loving myself, and thank you for praying for these precious people going through fire.

A Mindful Morning

I woke up this morning thinking, ‘I need a job.’ That is hilarious to see hours later, but I had to admit it. There are days I wonder what I’m doing and why don’t I just go live a normal life. A job would be reliable, but I’d be miserable.

I have a job assisting a friend in California three and a half days a week. It is done virtually, which gives me the flexibility in schedule and the joy of working from home. I get to write, think of ways to encourage people and work.

My first job, after I left the workforce, was to take care of my daughter during the separation between her father and me. To be perfectly honest, I think we took care of one another that year. Next up was to let go of my past and learn to live. My life began transforming into beauty, which I guess it already was, but I hadn’t stopped long enough to look. Seeing the present moment and noticing everything in it. I started sharing pictures on Facebook of a beautiful life.

flowerGod promises beauty from ashes and here it was. I was living it. Friends started referring to my life as ‘Inbarbsworld.’ I wanted people to see that life after divorce can be beautiful. I enjoyed letting go so much I received my certification in it. It’s a balance of letting go and letting God.

Last year was the year of learning how to live. This year I’m refining it, or it’s refining me. I am grateful to follow God and be sober.

In 2014 this Blog began. It encourages me to see it has reached twice as many people already this year alone, compared to the entire first year. The job I love is paying off! Thank you for reading what I love to write.

That is what I do. I love on people until they can love themselves. Most of it is done virtually, but I do enjoy going out into the real world. The trip to Colorado was an eye opener for me with the loss of technology. If you missed it, you can read it here I got better as the week went on, but it made me ponder if I was addicted to my phone. The notifications make life easy.

My phone also makes life noisy. It’s fun to push myself and see what I can live without. Does the phone make my life that much better? When my phone bill came due, I decided not to pay it. To just skip a week and see what happens. To think of it as a phone fast is what worked for me. The weekend was a fail. It would automatically connect to WiFi if I was visiting a place I had been before and everything would start rolling in. Today, I had to turn it off completely.

My life is quieter. Through my laptop, I can still encourage people virtually, it just may not be so immediate. Without the notifications, I have to remind myself to go in and check email, banking, Facebook, Twitter and everything that used to notify me of activity. My time has more quality. The beauty that surrounds me in more noticeable because I’m not staring at a screen in my hand. I enjoy looking out the truck window during the ride instead of at my phone.

Maybe you gave up your phone a long time ago. I didn’t think I could. If this keeps going like it has today, I’ll be on a new level of simplicity. Dejan Stojanovic says it best, “They blossomed, they did not talk about blossoming.” They just did.


blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 16 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Letitgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is writing her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com