I have read a lot of frightening articles about relationships. You can barely define the word anymore. In an ever changing world, God hasn’t changed His definition. It is still the same.

To have any type relationship, I believe first comes some type of love. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 says, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

Maybe we have forgotten what love is?

Firmly planted in my mind, was an idea of how I wanted to be loved. Based on parts that felt good in the past. I had to let all that go, to receive what God had planned. It didn’t look familiar, but there’s that connection you cannot avoid. Maybe people are looking for that immediate connection, and get lost in it instead. Stay connected, and grab some bricks.

Sometimes sex occurs after the connection. Well..That is another ‘feel good’ moment, and will not be a brick, or the glue to hold you together. You can find sex anywhere, and very easily today. If that is all you’re looking for, you may not be ready for a relationship. The one thing I see people running from today is ‘Commitment’. Your life is a commitment.

Are you a trustworthy person? Are you loyal? Do you strive to do the next right thing?

What you have inside you, is what you have to offer that other person. Be complete within yourself, and not look for someone to complete you. If you feel you’re missing something, or have a void inside, find that first. Did I mention it’s a God shaped void? I drank for many years trying to fill that speck of emptiness inside. Pouring in what the world had to offer.

It didn’t work, and almost killed me. The day I asked God for help, He did, and I was whole.

Love is happiness. I smile a lot today, and have a circle of people who give me that smile.

My unconditional love comes from God. He loves me no matter what I say, and forgives me when I mess up. I allow Him to mold me, and form me into what He wants me to be. Loving is not for wussies. It takes courage in allowing someone to love you just the way you are.

To love and to be loved is the greatest gift of all. Time and patience. Brick by brick.

 

Barbara is a Writer, Certified Letting Go Coach, and Mom to her 16-year-old daughter. She loves dipping cookies in her coffee in the morning and has a pretty healthy obsession for chocolate. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life today is an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com