Perspective

It’s cloudy here in Texas, so I’ve been doing some things around the house, but I’ve also been moving leisurely. I’m enjoying my alone time, but still have a lot I want to do before my daughter gets home. These are wants, not needs. She will be happy to just be home.

I took some time away from home yesterday, and met a friend for lunch. It was spur of the moment, but let me just tell you, the drive was spectacular! We met in Elgin, TX, which was the nearest town to my daughter and I, when we lived on 40 acres. I haven’t had a reason to go there in the past couple of years, so it was interesting to see how things had changed.

GPS took me the back way. Yes, I have my GPS set to ‘back roads please.’ Every now and then, you will spot a vehicle in your rear-view mirror, flying up on your tail at 80 mph. This bothers my daughter to no end, but when I see that happening, it makes me sad for that person. They are not getting the reason why we live way out here, and are they hurrying by.

Even though my daughter is not here this weekend, she is in my heart. I went into what used to be a couple of my favorite shops yesterday, and came home with some little things she will love. These two shops had changed since the last time I was there, but one shop still had a couple of my favorite things. I went into that shop twice. Before I met my friend, and after.

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I laughed so hard when I saw these. These two tins of mints describe pieces of our life.

My daughter’s worst days are contributed to PMS. I have to stop everything I’m doing to accommodate a hot flash. The next time she apologizes for her moodiness, I can hug her, and hand her these. She will scream!

It’s all about perspective darling.

I have been reading a number of Blogs recently, and a lot of writers have stopped writing.

If you love to write, then write. It doesn’t matter what it says, or if it has a point, because the person who is reading it is going to get what they need from it. Things jump out at me that the writer probably just threw in there. I have read Blogs where they wrote it while sitting on their pity pot. Eventually they may stop writing altogether.

Come on now….I’m preachin’ good. What makes you feel alive? Do more of that.

Stop looking at the numbers! Oh yes, I said it. I was once a big numbers/statistics person. The numbers are not reality. Algorithms control what people see, but our God controls who sees what we write. I have seen Him use it many times, and it wasn’t reflected by numbers. I will continue to write what is on my heart, so God can use it for His glory. Not mine.

I was the most fulfilled by writing in January, when I did so everyday. I didn’t always have something profound to share, but it felt good. If I’m sad about something, or in a rotten mood, I try not to burden you with it. Once I have revelation, that is what I love to share.

Just like spending time this weekend, uncluttering my home. That also unclutters my mind.

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There’s no telling what all I will write about once my house is in order! I have to share one more thing that I picked up yesterday. My daughter loves these soaps. These are hand soap size, so not a lot of money. There is something so intoxicating about the smell of a man. We don’t have a man living in our home, but that doesn’t stop us from enjoying the smell. Perspective.

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Barbara is a Writer, a Mom to her 17-year-old daughter, a recent Breast Cancer survivor, and she loves God. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This One Life

We are only given one life. God gave me this Blog title before I fell asleep lastnight. Facebook revealed to me this morning, it was 3 years ago today that I wrote my first Blog.

It doesn’t feel like 3 years ago, but looking at my life today it makes sense. I have simplified my life so much, and I’m still doing it today. My daughter and I have this joke about driving, and getting distracted by the sunset. She would be the one arriving home late because she was taking pictures of the sky. This morning sky is distracting me in much of the same way.

It takes time to unlearn what we’ve learned. To deprogram ourselves so to speak. When my daughter and I starting living together on our own, I recall a moment of us getting dressed and ready for the day. She was frantically trying to get ready, and out the door, as I stood there feeling a building pressure of being late again. Then I had a life changing revelation.

I looked her way and said, “We’re not in a hurry.” After spending most of my life rushing, this was huge for me. We were not on anyone else’s timetable anymore, so we got to choose how to live our lives. Our lives were pretty much a blank canvas at that point, so we had the opportunity to fill it in as we pleased. We stopped rushing, and started enjoying our life.

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When I see my daughter rushing today, I still tell her, “We’re not in a hurry.” I think I say it outloud for my own sake as well. It’s like a reminder for both of us. Do you notice your life?

This took years of downsizing, and my flesh having fits because I thought I needed that ginormous house. God gently moved us from one house to the next, each time they got smaller, and we were forced to let go of more things. When my daughter and I moved for the first time into our own little house, that was a defining moment for me. What to take?

I’ve written about it before, but we only took the things we loved. There was so much stuff in that house, you couldn’t tell anything was missing when we left. We have moved twice, so we have given away a lot of what we thought we loved. We continue to simplify our lives.

That is where I am. Yesterday, I rearranged the furniture in our den. I woke up this morning excited about walking into a newly designed room. It caused me to take notice of something that has not been used in a while. My daughter’s desk. She has been doing her schoolwork at the dining room table this year, when she has a perfectly good desk. It’s just cluttered up.

To see our lives, and all the opportunity it holds, will take some uncluttering. She has a bookshelf behind her desk that can be made more useful. When she returns home tomorrow, she will have a clean, inviting desk, and a bookshelf housing what she needs.

It’s all right there Beautiful Souls. Enjoy your life. It’s waiting to be seen.

 

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Barbara is a God follower, a Writer, and Mom to her 17-year-old daughter. When she started this Blog in 2014 Letitgocoach was the name that stuck. She enjoys helping people Let Go of what is holding them back from having a beautiful life. Part of her mission is to show people they can start over at 50. Her life is beautiful, and an example of Letting Go and Letting God. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com