Feel The Pain

The most difficult part of being sober was actually feeling. One of the reasons I drank was to ‘not feel’ and face reality, so when that was removed, I had a flood of emotions to deal with. Living life on life’s terms was harsh reality.

When someone hurts you, it hurts. It’s a lot like an actual wound where you get cut, it bleeds, you stop the bleeding and give it time to heal. If you don’t take care of it, it can get infected or not heal properly. It takes time to heal.

letitgoWhen people hurt me, I try not to take it personally. It’s something they are going through and I just got it the way. If they hurt me continuously and I don’t remove myself from the situation, it’s like picking the scab off the original wound. It doesn’t have time to heal and the pain starts again.

Feeling the pain of being hurt, you must take time for yourself to let it heal. Some people hold onto the pain and let it fester into bitterness and resentment. This is a devastating way to live your life. Every time you are reminded of  the person who hurt you, the scab comes off and you bleed.

Go through the healing process and allow yourself time to realize you are going to be okay. Once the wound is completely healed, you’ll be better than okay. Every good cry, washes away the pain and makes me better than before. Get to the other side of pain and become stronger for it.

There is beauty on the other side. Everyone heals at a different pace, but it shouldn’t take a lot of time. A broken bone takes roughly 6 to 8 weeks to heal, but your heart may take more or less time. It depends on how deep the cut was. If you can forgive the person who caused you pain, step away and take time for the wound to heal, time will heal. Time and God can heal a broken heart. With God, you just have to make sure you give Him every single piece.

 

blackandwhiteBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a LetItgocoach and help others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is working on her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com

Just Fall Apart

My life has come so far in a rather short amount of time. Being in the middle of it, makes it difficult to see. My daughter told me, “I don’t think you realize how far you’ve come.” I was having a pity party, but it didn’t last long.

goodBeing a coach is not about giving advice. For me, it’s about listening to someone talk, until they find their own answers. We all know what to do. Being an adult should give you the knowledge of what’s right and wrong. Knowing and doing are two different things. Knowing comes easy but doing is when it gets tough.

Listening to someone talk, and then repeating things they say to you is all it takes. We have the answers, they just get buried underneath the circumstances. Saying them out loud, instead of letting them roll around inside us is healthy. Mama always said, “There’s more room out than there is in”, and that holds true.

When life is falling apart around you, let it fall. We try so hard to hold everything together, but I have found that is only a temporary fix. Pull yourself together and do the next right thing. Start sorting through what is wrong in your life and get to what’s right. What is right for you will be good for others. Go through the debris and find the beauty.

 

biopicBarbara is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. It’s a dream come true for her to be a Let It Go Coach and helping others enjoy their lives. She hosts Workshops, does one on one Coaching and is working on her first book.  You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com