Don’t Shrink Yourself

I awoke by what sounded like a blender.

Then that familiar scent entered my room.

My WordPress friend, Still a Dreamer, gets this moment. She refers to it as the Nectar of the Gods. Yes my darling, I woke up to the smell of a freshly brewed Chemex! Life doesn’t get any better!

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My daughter is a master of the Chemex.

She taught me how to make one, but mine are never as good as hers. She has it down to a science. She has class this morning, but took time to make one knowing it would be a beautiful way to begin this day. I was giddy holding this cup of magical brew.

Yes lovely, happiness is really that simple.

As my daughter was getting ready for class, she couldn’t decide what shoes to wear. She wanted to wear her new boots, but I could sense reluctance, so I questioned her quandary. Her response wasn’t what I thought it would be. It wasn’t so much about the boots, but how tall they made her look.

She is giving a presentation in front of her class. She is 5′ 8″ tall, just a little shorter than me. As she slid on her Converse sneakers I gave her a word of advice. You see, I felt the same way at her age.

I was taller than all the boys in school and wearing heels makes me look even taller. She doesn’t want to bring attention to herself, but today I know this…

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Boots on my darling. Don’t shrink yourself.

Meanwhile in Texas

My Sunday started early. Coffee in hand out to the porch to watch the day light up. Late yesterday evening, I broke a water pipe outside. I was grateful to be directed to the water shut off and that the explosion of water was outdoors.

My first thought was, “Let’s see if I can fix it.” Three years ago, I had a barn full of a little bit of everything. There was rubber cement for fixing this PVC elbow that had popped off. That barn is no longer a part of my life, so I called the man who built this house. He called a friend to come out early this morning, which he did. We now have water again.

blogI used to be good at fixing things. I guess I still am, but today, I try not to break anything to the point of having to fix it. Accidents happen, just like that PVC cap popping off from the pressure of the water hose attached.

My experiences have taught me well and I continue to learn from them everyday. Everything happens for a reason, so every word spoken or not spoken and every action or non action has meaning to me. By watching, listening and waiting, time reveals all. I don’t always need an explosion.

I don’t want to fix situations or people today. Using a tool to repair a broken object brings satisfaction, but not in people. I cannot fix people. They can only fix themselves. Being a coach allows me the privilege of walking with them along the path of change. What we do in the present moment, dictates what follows in the next few moments. Be still and enjoy the moment.

 

 

 

Happily Ever After

Time goes by quickly. My daughter is driving with her permit and will have her license before long. She’s looking at cars, has a boyfriend and I just want her to be five again. Maybe it’s time for some of those Sun Stand Still prayers.

I saw this picture and thought it was beautiful. My daughter would love it because deep down, I think that is every girls dream. To live Happily Ever After, just like the princesses in the Disney movies. I want her to know, she can do that but she will need to start out living that way with herself. No one can make you happy, it’s up to you to be happy.

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I can be happy all by myself. My life is sweet just going though with God as my guide. It’s when other people come into my world that throws things off balance. God wants us to have a life with people involved, so it’s finding that daily balance of self and self with others. It works best if I can walk in love.

The world pushes the opposite image on us throughout the day. We are not complete without a mate. Kids are having sex and babies at an extremely young age. It saddens me to think what kind of generation we’ll have in a few years. Babies having babies. They are looking to fill a void and the world has told them sex will fix it. I wonder what goes through their minds during childbirth.

Our happily ever after is within us all. We can get real happy with just us and nurture it. Interacting with others throughout the day, can be draining, so be careful who you interact with and for what length of time. I do believe God has the perfect mate for everyone, but we need to stop looking. It doesn’t need to be our primary focus. Love God, love yourself, and love others. Take care of you and let God take care of the rest. You be you and live happily ever after.

biopicBarb is a writer and loves being a Mom to her 15 year old daughter. She has been an Entrepreneur for 25 years and has run several successful businesses. She gave up that life to write and become a Let It Go Coach. Barb has experience, strength and hope to share, and wants others to enjoy their lives. She hosts Virtual Workshops, that you can enjoy in the comfort of your own home. The sessions last 8 weeks and were instrumental in giving Barb the beautiful life she enjoys today. You may connect with her via email. Letitgocoach@gmail.com